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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi everybody. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a few months, its a long distance relationship but so far so good. My boyfriend is a mature student and is in his last few months of his degree. At the weekend I travelled over to see him I met his family etc, but the weekend was really hard he was very stressed would hardly come near me, kept getting very upset because he is so behind in his studies. This got me very upset because I started to feel that maybe this is the end of the road for us. The whole weekend seemed to be under a black cloud, I kept asking him if he wanted to end it he said he didnt and that it had took him years to find somebody like me, but because he was so cold with me I was finding it really hard to believe i was starting to think that may be he just doesnt want to hurt me. I have spoken to him since I have been home and he keeps apologising but at the moment i cant shake this feeling that I wont see him again or that he doesnt want me. He has explained how stressed he is and how he is scared of failing and that as soon as its all over we can work at the relationship again. Im just so insecure at the moment I cant believe it. If anybody has been for a similar situation please share before I go mad. I do love him and want to be there for him and I am prepared to hang on but I need hope to keep me going.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (5 June 2007):
 It sounds like it is all as he said, the stress of upcoming exams is obviously really getting to him, i would try to take comfort in the fact he has told you he does not want to end it and as soon as it's all over you can concentrate more on your relationship, be strong for you and him and i'm sure everything will come together when it's all over, just think of the relationship you can have if there is no pressure on him and you have been there for him through it all.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007): i am going through the same situation, except my boyfriend is a year and a half behind. your boyfriend does love you, but all he can think about is school for right now. guys show their emotions in a totally different way, that can keep you guessing. although me and my boyfriend broke up due to his stress we are still on very good terms, as soon as school is over we are getting back together. my advice to you is if you really love him and he truely loves you then this break up will be good for the both of you. lets him get schooling out of the way and soon in the end all of his attention will be focused on you. it will all work out. i know its hard, i cry every night because i just want him back. but in the end it will be worth it. it will also show him that you care for him enough to wait so he can get things straightened out. just trust me things will all work out soon.
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