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anonymous
writes:Just began a relationship with my boyfriend to weeks ago.We were mucking around and he lay on top of me.I was fine with it when it happened. Afterwards, I started thinking that he might get the wrong idea. :S Everyone at school is trying to find out about our relationship, like everyday. I don't want to spend the rest of my school days with them pestering me. Anyone have any help on that one.I really like this guy and want it to work. I feel that he is the one to sleep with but want to wait a while. Everyone in school is setting a date for us to sleep together :SHe is the sort of guy who doesn't show his feelings in public. Everyone knows we're together, but we don't show it... I don't want to pressure him into it but I'd like to be a public couple? Of course we have different views!MOD NOTE: Some Grammar and spelling has been corrected for easier reading. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): If he won't go public, then the last thing you should do is sleep with him trying to encourage him to go public. That's exactly the kind of carrot-on-a-stick that a player dangles in front of you to get laid without committing.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 You should wait as long as you wish, and I totally agree with "HereToHelpx," in that it is not anyone else's business.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Do what feels best for you. This is one reason why I never dated anyone at school. People like to get in other people's business. Ugh.
Best wishes.
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reader, Jrcook +, writes (28 April 2009):
 You should not rush it, even though it may seem like everyone is doing it. When you get older you will regret it, if you are not ready. Also he may seem like the right one for now, but only the future can tell you that. That is one of the main resaon why you should wait and if he is the right one he will not have a problem waiting. You are your own judge and you are capable of knowing when it is right, however, if you will wait until you are a little older you will feel better about yourself. I promise when you get older you will understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): Please do not feel you have to do it because everyone else is or telling you to. I lost my virginity when i was 15, and i done it for all the wrong reason.... so please think about it.!! Boys WILL have more respect for you of you make them wait till your ready. The fact that you have only been together 2 weeks and he doesn't want to go public, does make me a bit concerned!! If he is a true gentlemen (boy) he will not pressure you and will respect your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): Tell them to mind their own business! They have no right to say that - Ignore it. Do these people not have a life? Why are they so interested in your sex life, they should only care for their own. Only have sex with him when you're ready to and don't give in because everyone else is telling you to do it. Talk to your boyfriend about it and ask what he thinks. Maybe he'll be mature enough to rise above these comments and will also want to wait until you (and him) are ready.
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