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writes:I've been sleeping with the same guy for 2 years and have fallen in love with him. But he won't commit to a relationship. I'm not sure if it's because I have a child or that he's just not ready. Do I give up and move on? or keep holding on hoping he'll change his mind?
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reader, lou24 +, writes (11 January 2010):
lou24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you every1 for your comments. Was very helpfull, iv decided to end it and move on, Beacuse if it was going to work it would have byy now! My child has never met the guy coz i didnt want him meeting him unless we were in a relationship....which has never happend
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): Thank you for all your responses! time to move on now and find some1 who wants me
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reader, malibubabes30 +, writes (8 January 2010):
 one sided relationships don't work!, give him an ultimatum, make him realize what he's got and what he can lose if he don't pull his socks up! seems to me he needs a kick up the bum to realise what hes got, i had this earlier this year, i was with my man for a month, then he moved out and gave some excuse, then he moved back in then a month later her moved out again but during this time he wanted a baby, then changed his mind so i was on and off the pill for about 4 months, i did go through a bit of a depression when he moved out the second time, and i cut all my hair off, he knew it was his fault that i did it, because he told me heloved me so much but then stopped giving affection, stopped texting me when he was at work, when he moved out he never text me for over 3 days, so i told him it werent working, he then went on to move into a place of his own, but hey after 2 weeks, he realised what he had lost and came back to me, i knew he would come back, he just needed a wake up call that was all, we are now engaged and i am pregnant and we have stayed together for over a year now, and things are going great, he tells me he loves me all the time, he gives me affection all the time, as for your boyfriend, he maybe just confused and needs to be shown the path.... yes it is risky ending your relationship, but if he really loves you and misses you then he will come back to you and things should get better, try talking to him before you do anything drastic!, if he doesnt change then try ending it, leave several days then ask him if hes ok by text message, then see what happens from there, and if he comes back to you then make sure that he knows the reason you broke up in the first place! and you just want to be a happy couple! he seems to be immature! and may not be ready to settle down yet, but its also not fair on our child having him come and go, so its either make or break for you and your childs sake, its not just you and him involved here is it, its your child to!
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 It's not because you have a child and it's definitely not because he's not ready. It's because to him you're not 'it' and he's getting what he wants without giving anything in return. I know that sounds harsh but that's the way it is.
And what have you been doing with him for 2 years? As rhythmandblues2 has said, if there's no relationship by the 6th month...there probably won't be one. He's getting what he wants without giving you what you want...can you see how wrong that is?
You need to let him go. Find someone who wants what you want.
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reader, ashaseth01  +, writes (7 January 2010):
It seems like he is already getting what he wants from you. Why bother marrying you?? get out woman! you deserve much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): I don't know why you stayed for two years for sex....if someone doesn't want a relationship with you by month 6 I would be thinking about your options, at month 9 still a no go I would definately be out the door....are you talking about an exclusive relationship, marriage what?It really doesn't matter what he is saying to you by saying this is you are not the one.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 January 2010):
After two years of nothing but sex, you can be sure he's using you and completely uninterested in taking it further. Move on.
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