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writes:A few days ago I saw the girl I like in the hall. She said hi and smiled (because she liked me too), but I think I ruined my chances. We had gone out once before (but without any sort of action..close to our second date even..) And this is very unlike me, but I actually kinda choked. I said hi back but I stuttered and mumbled a bit...shocking myself.. and this made her laugh. It felt like that one instance just killed all the attraction (at least for me). Idk... Not sure what to do now. I'm not the kind of guy that likes to pursue a girl. (Other way around). It's just a shame because we really hit it off. Anyone think this can be saved or should I just move on?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (7 January 2011):
 I don't think you necessarily ruined your chances, otherwise she wouldn't have bothered acknowledging you in the hallway.
It sounds like she's not the one to pursue the opposite sex either, or is unsure you like her. So what to do? Well one of you are going to have to overcome the fact you don't chase after the opposite sex. Looks like it's going to have to be you. Just buck up and start talking to her again, ask her out again and see where it goes. Most of all, relax.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 You may also be reading too much in to it. When we finish in relationships/dating etc, isn't it nice to just get a 'Hi!', the alternative could be a total blank. If she is still interested in you and you don't want to pursue, see what happens next time your paths cross and see if you can weigh the situation up , it will either be something or nothing.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (7 January 2011):
It is my belief that girls form an opinion of a guy pretty quickly in terms of whether he's someone they're willing to date or not. Since you had already established a baseline with this girl, I therefore doubt a small misstep like the one you described would totally trash your chances. So, my advice is to pursue her. Most women like to be pursued rather than have to do the pursuing. She could be waiting for you to make the next move!
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