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writes:Hi every love guruMy husband and I fight alot. And while I am usually the one to hold my temper, last night got the better of me. I said some sad stuff- like would he be open to me seeing other people and I wished he were dead. Awful, I know, but for the past two years it has been nonstop yelling and anger from him and the silent treatment and not helping with anything etc. So, even though I have a backlog of reentment, I know I shouldn't have said these things.When I tried to kiss and make up he roughly shoved me away and then flung his ring at me and stormed out. I have texted and called numerous times and offered apologizes. (The fight was started by him complaining about me riding him: for getting the chores done) I am also not sleeping very well as our 20 month olf STILL does not sleep through the night. So, this is the worst that I have ever said to him. Sunday he told me he hated me in the car and started going off because I disagreed with the route he was taking!! I did not yell, nor was mean. He also started a fight on Friday with me that I again was very calm and agreeable about. Now, he won't respond to my calls. It is a cycle. It happens when we have a bad fight. He goes to his parents and won't return my calls for days. I worry that he will divorce me. Which maybe I would deserve. But can't he just respond that he is ok and will talk again a few days?
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (17 March 2013):
It's very difficult with young kids. Your not getting enough sleep and he's not getting enough sex.. You have to fix this, if its not too late. Get a babysitter go away for a weekend, talk, have fun, apologise, plan a better future. And right now? Better go find him and bring him home. Don't fight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2013): This is truly a sad story. why do you put up with it all?
It is evident that your relationship is over. Pack your bags and get the ---- out. You don't want to be a victim of domestic abuse. If you got nothing there are womens shelters in which they give you free help and a place to stay. Call them get out of the house as quick as you can. It is all over honey you need a good divorce lawyer asap.
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reader, sherrig +, writes (17 March 2013):
If he loves you, he will realize you are tired, and didn't mean what you said, However, his job is to work Daily at pleasing you, and yours is to work Daily at pleasing him. Neither should ever do or say anything that they wouldn't want done or said to them. Read your Bible, and suggest when he comes home that you pray together . I believe the Family that prays together, stays together. God Bless
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (17 March 2013):
 What a bloody great sook he is to run home to his mummy whenever you two have an argument!
There seems to be a major communication problem here, neither of you are getting your message through to the other .... leading to the fights. Have you considered counselling? even if he wont go with you, go by yourself. This will help you understand why this is happening and should also help you to develop some strategies to deal with it.
Good luck to you and your little one.
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