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writes:Hello again, well whilst writing my previous question, i began to think, am i insecure? paranoid? scared?? i was wondering if any of you might be able to lend a hand with this, you see, in short, if i get a girlfriend (like i have now) i feel like im gonna lose em, or they might cheat, or if they come round once, they will leave and never come back, i do love this girl, shes amazing, her PMT stresses me out and causes her to say some stupid things, But she says she would never cheat on me, nor would she flirt with other lads, but yet i still feel insecure?? why is this, and what can i do to remain calm etc, i also have asperger syndrome, if this is of any help, thank you.xxx.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (2 July 2009):
 glad things are better for you thanks for the update. at a young age we have alot of dramatic omg im gonna die if you leave me so forth but with time and age we learn from our experiences and move forward and try not to make the same mistakes so perhaps this was a lesson for you. glad you came out on top wish you all the best aphex xx
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reader, Krathor18 +, writes (1 July 2009):
Krathor18 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks so much for the advice guys, sadly me and kirsty arent together anymore cos i could not take her lies and deceit, nor could i tolerate her cheating so i ended it, i am single and for once in my life not that bothered about it, so thanks for the advice people :)
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (25 May 2009):
 It's perfectly normal to feel worried in a relationship, when you REALLY like the person, your doing everything you can to make sure nothing goes wrong.Now that being said, there is an extent you can reach, there is a difference between a little worry, and ALOT of worry.I use to be really paranoid to relationships, and that caused problems in them, even when things were going right. It would cause jealously problems, insecurity, and fights that werent NOT necessary. and ulimately, ended in a break up.I realized that if I was going to keep a SOLID relationship, that I needed to overcome my fears, I needed to learn how to trust, and just relax once in a while. Live in the moment, and don't worry about the future. Have fun in your relationship, let her know how much you care about her constantly, and just do nice things for her. If you guys do end up breaking up in the future, YOU WILL MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE. Remind yourself that everytime you can worried. I also suggest that you should talk to her about your feelings if they are that serious, that may help..Don't let your feelings get the best of you...best of luckxxx
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (25 May 2009):
your syndrome wont be helping the situation. if you keep making her feel this way from your insecurities then she may leave you because you will push her too far you need to let her have her space. if she is going to cheat i hope you find out other than that you have to leave it up to fate to decide. just let these problems come to you rather than causing more. you will just push her away. their is no reason for her disturbing behaviour whether its PMT or not. you feel insecure has someone cheated on you before or left without a good bye or a loss of a parent or a sibling can make you feel insecure about things. you just need to relax and do things you enjoy and when bad things happen just say kay sera sera and hope things get better. your still very young so just enjoy what you have a live for today and not WHAT IF. hope that helps aphex xx
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