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writes:I'm a recent grad who has been single for three years. I'm ready to meet someone! However there's no one I'm interested in at my workplace which is a small company. Is online dating worth a shot? What are some options for young professionals? Outside of my work, I'm wasting away my time fantasizing about my dream boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, my "dream" boyfriend isn't perfect or perfectly attractive. But I can't even find someone I'm remotely interested in. I just want to meet a guy who is similar to me and treats me well. But I'm also afraid of ending up with someone whom I'm not attracted to and will end up dumping. I waste so much time envisioning these fantasies. And when I wake up, it's the same boring reality. Any advice?
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reader, Sensible Alice  +, writes (10 March 2014):
 Tell all your friends and relatives you're looking for love. The people closest to you know you better than anyone and will be a good judge of who might suit. Be open to blind dates and don't expect too much, just enjoy the date for what it is; a chance to get to know someone new. If he's not suitable then at least you've gained another friend. Don't limit yourself with thoughts of the ideal fantasy man (we would all like the tall dark handsome fireman, but we're not likely to get him, LOL), embrace as many people into your life as you can, that way you have a better shot at finding love.
If you decide to use online dating be very cautious and only meet the person in a public place. Be aware that it is very easy for people to hide who they really are online.
I wish you the best of luck in this exciting phase of your life. Enjoy dating and meeting new people! Oh - and let us know when you find Mr Wonderful!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (10 March 2014):
 First off, don't look for dates at work. Whether you work in a big company or small. It's rarely worth the hassle.
Have you gone out with friends lately? (not just to clubs, but out for coffee, a movie, shopping, dinner and so forth).
Do you have any hobbies? Could take a class met new people that way too.
Online dating, I think it's pretty much a hit or miss for most people. BUT from what I have seen, it really comes down to what you want in a partner. Let's say you make a profile stating that you are LOOKING for a relationship (not a F-buddy or "reindeer") you might still GET guys contacting you who are ONLY interested in sex, so it will be up to you to weed out the keepers and not keepers.
Why not give it a go?, but READ up on the internet and personal safety that dating sites & common sense provide. That should be your priority, be safe, have fun and don't get into situations you don't want to be in (as in don't go out for drink with a guy you barely know, then get hammered and take him home in hopes that he might only want a cup of coffee...)And I would be weary of guy who either talk sex real fast (text/phone) or love real fast. Do the smart thing and met up if you think he could be interesting (but do yourself the favor and look him up in social media so you don't end up with a married guy who claims to be single and so forth.)
And mostly BE ready to met a few frogs. Don't settle.
The more we involve electronics in our lives the more complicated things like dating seem. So GET to know a guy by actually SPENDING time together. :)
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