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writes:So heres rhe deal...im in the military' 20yrs old and find myself pregnant.my boyfriend if u can call him that pcs'd to the other side of the country and weve been having problems here and there but now that ive decided to keep my child he insists on trying to convince me to give it up for adoption or just not keep it...he tells me he wants to be a dad but not right now bcuz hes not rdy but neither am i rly but i have my familys support...i guess the question is does anyone have any advice?
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reader, natasia  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Yes. Thank him for his input, but explain that although he might be able to give up his child, you can't, and that isn't going to happen. Explain that you have your family's support, and that 20, although not old, isn't that young - it's not as if you're 13! You are a young adult.
Don't even think about giving your child up. If he can't cope with this now, that is just now. Probably down the line - maybe even as early as when the baby is born - he will start to come around. I don't know if you will want him around, but at least whatever happens, you will have your baby, and you will also have a clean conscience that you have done the right thing. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. I have children, and I know what is right. Follow your instincts. It will all be OK. For sure.
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