A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I KNOW IT´S LONG BUT I AM DESPERATE FOR YOUR ADVISE!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!I don´t know how to start with this. boyfriend and I had a big fight last month. I threatened to leave him by saying ´´we have to talk, i have to tell you something´´, I didn´t mean it, he was being extra mean to me that day, all of a sudden he said he wanted to end it but he took it back and said forget about what he just said.I have not heard from him eversince.I don´t know if he meant what he said or just like me he was also just got caught up in the moment. one time I texted him and asked if it was really over between us and that we have to talk about it but he didn´t reply and ignored my calls. that was the only time he didn´t answer my calls.so sad cos it only shows he really wanted to break up with me. I have this one friend I was suspicious of this friend before because earlier on our relationship she is always praising him and compairing him to he´s ex, and that he has an ex that looks just like him(she even brought a pic and showed it to me and my boyfriend), that he is tall and nice and everything, making me feel like I´m so lucky to have him, and would sometimes joke around that my bf profess he´s love for her, and that he and my boyfriend dated, but she always say it´s just a joke. I find her jokes hard to laugh at because one time I saw on my bf´s cp, pictures of my bf and her ´´toooo´´ close to each other and she was wearing he´s favorite hat, I deleted these pictures but left just one. Just last week my boyfriend uploaded pictures to he´s facebook account, he doesn´t usually upload pictures he never even upload picture of us, that day he uploaded pictures of he´s family , he´s shoes, their car , 2 pictures of me with him including the friend and the last one was the undeleted pic of him and her.I WANTED TO DIE WHEN I SAW IT. i cried so hard i wanted to die. I was devastated!! the fact that I was hoping we could still be together because I believe we could still work it out. that maybe I just over reacted and that we could still fix it but seeing that picture just destroyed me.not even ones did he upload picture of us on he´s facebook (aside from one photo I added on he´s wall) and seeing that he didn´t look good on that pic that there is no way he´d upload it because the camera was focused on her not him.as silly as it is, I cried my heart out I can´t bear the pain.I couldn´t believe he´d upload that. HE KNOWS I got jealous that time because of those pictures.I don´t want to assume anything but I was really GUTTED!!! I don´t want to accuse her therefore I can´t ask her anything. because that might shock her if she´s innocent. but I am also afraid thinking if they are still in contact and that he was courting her behind my back and that picture was a hint. what should I do! I know for a fact she likes him!!!she was one of those friend to whom i always ask for advice when having problems with this boyfriend. she was my bff before we met new friends but we were still friends. I´m afraid that if he tells him or bad mouth me to him or tell him how pitiful I am since he left me or how desparate and suffering I am that SHE would tell him and bf will pity me and say GOOD THING I BROKE UP WITH HER or that she would pretend uninterested for now but she is just waiting for me to stop grieving but is planning to be with him in the future anyway.I don´t know what to do. it´s all I think about. I see this girl at work everyday! I can´t ignore her cos she might wonder why . I don´t want to ask bf cos I´m afraid he´ll just ignore me and know that I am reacting to the picture he posted.but I can´t just wait around for him wait around to know what´s going on. I WISH SOMEONE WOULD TELL ME. I WISH HE DIDN´T TAKE IT BACK WHEN HE SAID IT WAS OVER AT LEAST I KNEW AND HAD A CHANCE TO TELL HIM HOW I FEEL OR HAD THE CHANCE TO FIX IT. YES I AM STILL HOPING HE´D COME BACK AND MY FRIEND KNOWS IT.I´m sorry for ever doubting my friend BUT I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND!!I don´t know what to do. I pray to GOD something good happens after all of this. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
View related questions:
at work, broke up, facebook, girl at work, jealous, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Try to talk to your boyfriend and not be so suspicious about him and other women. If he's the one for you he'll treat you right and not cheat on you, especially not with friends of you both. As for your friend, I think she and him are just becoming friends. You can't claim her to be only your friend anymore, she is his too, so you should stop telling her things about your boyfriend since she's his friend too.
Stop saying things you dont mean.
Try to work things out, but Im afraid if he doesnt want to work things out with you there's little you can do.
|
