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writes:I am 28 years old. I was married (now divorced) and in a relationship for 10 years. I have only been with 3 people sexually in my life. I have been with my boyfriend now for about 4 months. I care about him deeply. When it comes to sex.....it is good. However, when it comes to me getting on top.....I freeze. I have done it a couple of times but only for a minute. I hate being this way. I am scared he will leave me for not being able to do it. Please help me.
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reader, just-ask-xx  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Ok...leaving you? Over sex? Honey, if the guy's that shallow, maybe you'd be better off without him.
So don't be paranoid, which is ctually easier said than done but I'm positive you can do it.
Good luck hun x
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (1 February 2008):
 What scares you about going on top? Most men love it because it gives them a break and they can play with your breasts while you do all the rest. From a woman's point of view, think of it as looking after your personal pleasure.
Going on top gives you the freedom of being in charge, you can go as slow or as fast as you want and move as you please! If you feel over exposed, keep some sexy lingerie on, so your breasts are held up by a bra and your weist by a suspender belt, for instance. Also try closing your eyes and concentrating on the inside of your vagina. Rotate your hips and lift your bum so you can make the most of his penis and direct it towards your G-spot. Rotating your hips as you descend onto him will allow a screw motion that feels fabulous to both of you! It's also easier to grip your vaginal muscles while you're on top, making you feel tighter. This will allow more intensity for you and, alternating between tight thrusts and loose screws, you'll be able to have and give an ammazing orgasm!
Don't forget to open your eyes to see how much he's enjoying it!
Good luck!
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (1 February 2008):
 I'm with Uncle Phil. There is no reason for him to leave you.
Some people have the wonderful skill of turning bad things into good things. I think you can do it here. If you really don't know what to do, why don't you two see it as a chance to discover things that will be new for you? That can be fun.
Don't be afraid. Fear doesn't do you any good. Controlling your fear, taming it, that helps you.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): The way I see it, if you can do it for a minute, you could do it for ten, twenty minutes or whatever.
Why do you hate it? Doesn't make any sense to me at all. I don't see why he would leave you over it, though I must say I enjoy it that way, and every other way, and no doubt your guy does too.
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