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writes:Dear CupidI have been in my current relationship for 9 years. We have 2 kids together but apart from that the relationship has been going downhill for a long time.The whole time we have been together i have had feelings for his cousin. We both really like eachother and have slept togetether a couple of times.I have tried so hard to stay away from him but he comes round our house everyday and i know he likes me.What should i do?
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reader, nicole5178  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 I would say, if you do anything, put your children's interests first. If you do get a divorce, make it a gradual change and stay in good relations with the kids' father. You shouldn't have been unfaithful to your husband, with his family member, no less. You're living a lie by staying married to him with him in the dark about this. It's your life. Do you really want it all to be based on lies and half-truths?
You should tell your husband. Don't rush into divorce. Consider seeing a marriage counsler. If you really think getting together with his cousin could be a permanent arrangement, then okay. But even if you start seeing his cousin, your relationship might not work out in the end, and you would have thrown away a good husband....
Hope that helped you. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): do what you think is better. but ask yourself "why did i marry this man if i had feelings for his cousin the whole time?" why share 9 years with him. if you really think its going to work out with his cousin then go for it. if not then dont say anything and hope he dont say anything.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Your b/f would probably have known what is going on between the two of you and he does nothing.If your cousin comes daily to your house, you would suspect something amiss.
You have a few options.
1)Just carry on like nothing happens
2)Shut the door on his cousin and make your marriage work again.
3) Divorce your b/f and live with his cousin.
I hope you choose the right one.
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