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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating a while, and we're head over heels for each other. With any other guy I've had doubts, but with him I'm just so happy. I can honestly see him as the one for me, and I can't imagine myself without him. But..we get into fights a lot. Like small ones, that don't exactly matter much. Our personalities are so different sometimes we can't help but disagree, is this a sign that we won't work out...? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 April 2012):
 Darling, you are 13-15, and, I feel a bit liked the wicked witch commenting this but truth is truth... and right now it does not matter that much if your personality are well matched or mismatched , because , statistically speaking, the odds that you'll end up with this guy forever, or even, for a long time, are minimal. Abysmal, in fact. So, live today for today, and enjoy it all, arguments included :).
As for " opposites attract ", well, I respectfully disagree with the other Aunts , that's a pop psycholgy myth that has been repeatedly debunked by researchers. In fact, it's true that opposites attract, at an immediate, superficial level: diversity creates mental curiosity and erotic excitement. But the relations which last longer and work better are those based on shared personality traits , a high level of emotional / intellectual
compatibility and a low level of conflictuality.
Which is not that surprising after all :) Arguing and making up all the time may feel exciting and " cute " at your age, or at that of the younger Aunts , but in time it just gets SO tiresome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2012): No that doesnt mean you two cant work out, there is lots of couples that are quite different. You two just gotta respect each others views and interests, and love the good things about each other.
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