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writes:hi hope you ca help me its about my mom my moms mom our nan died nearlly two months ago and it was hard for everyone she was like our second mom too were a close family since then though its been really hard with my mom ,ive moved out living with friends and shes round everyday but the only reason is shes split up with her boyfriend there always breaking up and getting back together nd everytime it happens shes mad ith everyone and were all sick of it im 24 and my sisters are 18 and 26 but now shes split up with him she keeps wanting to go out with us everyweekend she has been and its not that im embarrassed of her but i feel im 24 i want to be with my own friends theres some things u cant say in front of your mom nd since shes been single shes like a a man eater down town , well i got in last night and said i was going to liverpool to sleep at my friends on a nigt out and she wanted to come i told her no and now shes fell out with us and says she wont bother with us again, we feel really guilty now but we just want our own space we are not deling with whats happened to our nan and we want to be on our own our we out of order not wanting to let our mom come out on nights out thanks if u answer back x
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 remember as well that the reason she wants to come out with you at night is probably because she doesn't want to be at home alone with her grief and lonliness. think about that for awhile
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reader, marieclaire +, writes (28 September 2009):
your mom is going through a very very tough time. my mother fell apart when her mother died. if you were having a tough time i'm sure your mother would be there for for how ever long you needed her. she's very vulnerable right now and you need to make things up with her. MissKin is right when she says you need to include your mother in your life.
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (27 September 2009):
MissKin has given you all the advice you need. Read that! Lots of luck.
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reader, pinkgoblin15  +, writes (27 September 2009):
 She's probably needing lots of company her mom just died.. You need your space to cope with it but your mom really needs you
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reader, MissKin + ♥, writes (27 September 2009):
 She's an adult but she's human too. Don't just push her away. She obviously needs you, so give her some of your time. Go shopping together. Have lunch together. But talk to her like an adult, be reasonable. Let her know you love her and want to be there for her, but you all need your own space too and that doesn't mean she isn't allowed to be involved with your life, it just means you need to have some of your own things.
When people pass away, sometimes it can hit you hard and make you realise your age... and make you act like you're 18 again. Try to give her a bit of a break and not get so mad about it. Talk it through until it's resolved.
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