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writes:It all started in 2009 when I didn't make it to get into the career that I had always dreamed of.instead I found myself studying something else that I had thought of.I was very depressed,I felt I wasn't good enough.I had a great childhood,I was very intelligent at school,I was always top of my class.so when I didn't make it to get into the course that I wanted because I couldn't make the required points,it jst through my world off balance.that was my first depression.During the same year (2009) in august my mom died unexpectedly.I was very close with my mom.she was the centre of my world.so when she died I cried a lot but for not for long because I was in the middle of exams in college.so I refuse to deal with it I just pushed aside.when I would think about my mom I would push the thought out of my mind.the depression got worse I could not see the point of living.I even considered ending my life at one point.In 2010,I met this guy and I feel in love.he made forget about my troubles for sometime.we dated for a year but he turned out to be a jerk.he cheated on me so I broke up with him.he tore my heart to a million pieces.I was still in collage then.my depression returned.it was worse this time.I am now done with college. I am working and I get a good salary.and I am staying on my own.I know people admire what I have achieved so far,but I am very empty inside.I have been single for two years now,and its not because guys don't find me attractive.I am a very atrractive woman. But after my last breakup,I have lost interest in dating. I feel like no one can realy understand me.its been fours now since my mom died but I still cry when I think about.and this usually four to five times a week. I don't have friends or family members that I can talk to. I am alone most of the time.So nowadays I ask myself if I will ever be happy.should be speeking to a professional. is it normal to feel down most of the time.plz I need advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2013): I am happy to hear that.
I wish you all the best and i'm sure you will have a very happy life in the near future.
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reader, malvern  + ♥, writes (9 August 2013):
 I am so pleased you have decided to go to an art class and to re-establish your connection with God. I'm sure you will meet many like minded, supportive and good people through both those things. You will always feel sad about your mother but I am sure she would only want the best for you and for you to have a happy life. I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much.I appreciate your advice.
I am a christian.and agree with you high maintainance,I need to re-establish my connection with God.thank you
Melvern thank you very much.I actually love drawing and painting,I'll take a class in that.thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2013): Hi there!
You know happiness is a choice.
Its something you can just have if you don't try to own it.
In life, there are so many temporary things that will make us happy.
Like me when i go shopping, i am at my most happy moment.
Or when I did something wow at work it makes me so very happy.
But those are temporary things.
I'm not sure if your a christian or what ever religion you might have.
But in the bible, the lord sez we should adore him alone and love him above all things.
I think you should start having a deep connection with GOD first. Because it is permanent.
God is everywhere. he will never disappoint you neither leave you or whatever. There is no timeline with him. its continuous. That's the first thing you need to do. fix your relationship with God. Maybe joined a christian group whatever, so you could be surrounded by positive people.
When we have a healthy relationship with God, It makes us feel complete. like me I always talk to God, like really pray out loud to him everyday. before i go to work and before I go to sleep, It makes me feel safe. it makes me feel complete. Because of this I can't count the number of times God has been very faithful in protecting me at all times of my life. I swear, from every unfortunate events.
There are also times that God wont answer my prayers, so my prayer to him is Lord please help me understand why and help me just accept it because you know better than I. i know i wanted it but its bad for me, so please help me accept its not for me. Instead of having attitude and turn away from God.
If you have a healthy relationship with God, your relationship with other people and yourself will be different in a positive way. and believe me it will make you change the way you think about yourself.
There are so many wordly advise I could give you but those things will not make you happy forever. I'm sure you have other relatives alive other than your mom? maybe you should contact them. try to initiate to get in touch with them.
Lastly occupy your mind with things that will make you more successful. I know your on your way to the top, but maybe you could do even better. Try to make a list of those things. Be busy in achieving it.
Make things happen.
Love life?
The right person will come to you, someday. When? just wait for it.
Most of all whatever you do keep praying, if you have the need to fast for it, then do it. In the bible during the old times people do fasting when they asked something to God.
I know that there is nothing impossible with God.
Smile, eat and enjoy life.
Good Luck!
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reader, malvern + ♥, writes (8 August 2013):
Yes, it's very normal to feel down and depressed from time to time. We all have our bad times for a variety of different reasons. It seems to me that you need to find some sort of recreational interest that will take up your time and stop you dwelling on your thoughts. Is there something you are interested in that you can start doing? Dancing, a drama group, a craft type course like jewellery making or similar, art or an academic course perhaps? I think you need to get out there and meet other people of your own age too. You seem to have got down in the dumps, which is understandable especially with regard to your mother, and the best way to get out is to mix with other people and have a good laugh. You may also find professional help beneficial too.
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