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writes:OP asked two questions and they have been combined to save room for other OPs on this page.Question 1:Here's the story. I'm 17 an my last year of high school and have a crush on one of my friends from camp (19) who is going into second year at university. I worked up the courage to let her know that I liked her, even though I knew that she didn't like me. Although I am disappointed, I am fine with just being friends.The problem is that I would like to spend some more time with her before she leaves in 2 weeks, but we don't have mutual friends that we can hang out with. I don't want to ask her to hang out with me because she might think I am asking her out, which I don't want to do because I'm fine with the fact that she doesn't like me. I'd also like to ask her to go to the toronto exhibition, which is a good place to have fun and also walk around and talk about stuff. I'd like to go alone so we can talk privately but it might seem like a date and be kind of awkward.What should I do? Thanks for your help.Question 2:I recently asked out one of my friends and was rejected. Although I'm disappointed, I'm trying to keep my spirits up about everything and keeping our friendship going. But we did have a conversation about our relationship as friends and I got some questions answered. But something she didn't feel comfortable answering was any specific reasons why she wouldn't want to go out with me. I didn't press on because I respect her feelings and don't want to make her feel uncomfortable.So ladies, could you please give me some reasons other than age (im 17 she's 19, not an issue with me) and long-distance about why she might not want to go out with me. I know you don't know me but just leave some suggestions and I'll try to figure out which ones seem to suit me. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, that's a good answer. It helps a bit.
I'd still like to hear a few more opinions. Thanks for the help.
And we both agreed on just staying friends, to make that clear.
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reader, PPrincess_89  +, writes (23 August 2009):
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I understand the situation, but all you have to do if work your words right so she gets that its only a friend thing and not a date. I don't know how it went when you told her you liked her, but make sure that she knows that YOU know that she is only happy as friends. Make sure that shes comfortable around you so you have to be as normal as you are with her as if she was another one of your mates...be casual when you mention the exhibition too but say that it would be nice to just get together before she goes off to uni...
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As i dont know you i cant make any judgements but the one other reason I see she might have said no to you is university. University is a new chapter and most ppl want it to be that moment in life where they are completely their own person. Hardly anyone wants to be tied down since they'll be bound to be meeting loads of new ppl and having those crazy nights out...the age thing and distance are the other 2 clear reasons, and thats all I can really say on the matter. Hope that helps!
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