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writes:I have a question about an issue I've been having. Basically, it seems like my ejaculation and orgasms have gotten out of sync. This has only happened in the past 5 years or so, previously they happened at exactly the same time. I'll try to describe what I mean. When I have sex, if I finish normally inside my gf then I pretty much just ejaculate without an orgasm. It still feels good, but it doesn't feel like an actual orgasm. The only method I have found to actually have an orgasm is to have sex, pull out when I ejaculate, and then not have anything touch my penis during the ejaculation. When I do this, I ejaculate but still maintain a pretty high level of arousal. Then, I can resume thrusting and get an orgasm like 15-30 seconds later. It feels to me like I'm ejaculating before I can get an orgasm, but when I just do things normally my arousal drops off so quickly after ejaculation that I can't keep going or reach orgasm afterwards. This "trick" is the only thing I've found that works since it lets me keep going that extra little bit to trigger the orgasm.So does anyone know what could be going on, or how I can get my orgasms back in sync? Appreciate the advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2012): Thanks for the replies so far. This does happen regardless of what act is taking place, I just used sex as an example. For example, if I masturbate, I have to let go of my penis while I'm ejaculating and then start stroking again afterwards in order to actually get an orgasm. That "trick" works, but it's kind of frustrating...it takes a good deal of self-control to pull out at ejaculation every time.
I'm not on any medication or drugs so I don't think that's the cause. And yeah, I know full well that withdrawal isn't the most reliable form of birth control haha, we use the pill.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (29 November 2012):
I actually was listening to Love Line years ago (the one with Dr. Drew) and he was talking about this. Just because a man ejaculates, does not mean he's having an orgasm. So my guess is that it's fairly common and as far as getting them back in sync...no idea. But I thought I'd share that I've heard of it before and there's probably nothing wrong with you and it's something that just happens.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 November 2012):
 That is unusual. Is this only during sex, or do you have this issue during masturbation and oral sex as well?
This actually is more common when a guy starts taking specific medications like blood pressure medications, opiates (vicodin/percocet/codeine etc.), and SSRI anti-depressants. Alcohol as well can mess with the synchronization times. My husband has never been in sync with the whole simultaneous orgasm/ejaculation, but he's the opposite of you. He'll have his orgasm and finish before he ejaculates. Very rarely is it close together, and usually if we've been apart for a bit of time, then it's double explosion extravaganza.
A trip to your doctor is a good idea here, because while it's possible that your body might just be physically changing, or it's a subconscious issue, it very well could be something else that's worth a doctor's expertise to help you out.
Last note -- be very careful with your "trick", especially if your girlfriend isn't taking birth control. Sperm stays in the urethra after ejaculation as well as on your glans, and you have a very high chance of impregnating her this way, the same as if you had a full-blown ejaculation inside of her. Just because you ejaculated outside of her before you re-entered her doesn't mean you avoid pregnancy in the slightest. The only thing that could help is a thorough cleaning of your penis after withdrawal and urinating a few times to clear the sperm from your urethra.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (29 November 2012):
 I have a suspicion that you are not acquainted with the word "cunnilimgus".....
IF you ever find out what that means (Google it, please) THEN you will/might learn what turns on your G/F.....
Good luck.....
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