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writes:Right I have a girlfriend called Abbie but there's a big problem. Her best friend Sophie I think likes me because she is showing signs that she likes me. Also Sophie is the girlfriend of one of my best friends! I tried a classic trick the good things and bad things suprisingly Sophie has more good points and less bad points but she flirts with other boys so if I choose her and she flirts I'll end up with no-one and I lose the friendship of my friend Abbie and other friends but if I stay with Abbie she is too embarrassed to talk to me. Also I'm not sure I'll be happy, I tried to figure this out on my own but it is way too hard, I need help.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  + ♥, writes (7 May 2009):
 This is defiantly a classic problem, there are songs written about it. Probably the best thing to do is to move out of town and change your name. just kidding It really is a mine field and changing between two girls who know each other is a good way to get in trouble. It would be safest to show more attention to your current girl and try to work things out with her. If she decides she doesn't like you then it would be semi safe (not completely safe) to pursue the other girl, supposing that she has broken with your best friend.
On second thought She is a flirt. She probably isn't serious about you, just flirting.
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reader, Griim +, writes (7 May 2009):
 I don't quite know what you expect anyone to tell you! You know the options and have said the consequences yourself. If you keep Abby, you may be less happy than if you are with Sophie, but Sophie may not want you, leaving you even less happy than if you had just stayed with Abby. I think you are looking at this rather selfishly. If you run away with Sophie then two people may end up getting hurt. At the same time you don't really seem to desire your current girlfriend very much if you are willing to ditch her for someone else if the opportunity arose.If I were you I'd spare Abby the trouble and dump her. If Sophie wants you she will do the same with her boyfriend. If not, well, there are plenty more stars in the sky. Take my advice with a pinch of salt though. I only gave you my opinion because you asked for it but as you well know this is your decision and only you can make the right choice. I just gave you the best answer I could with what little information was available. Good luck!
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