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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey, I need some help. I'm really confused. We broke up on October 30th, and a week after that we started talking again, and tried to work it out, but then things just crashed and suddenly he was all bitter, and told me we weren't friends anymore. So we stopped talking, and then a day later he emailed me, twice asking me where I was, and that I should visit him. I ignored them, but a week later I caved and emailed him, and things got nasty. Eventually we started talking on the phone, I cried, and he was kind of a dick, but after awhile we discussed getting back together, and we were on friendly terms, we agreed to talk about it the next day, and he told me how he was going to write me a letter for Christmas, and then the conversation got a bit naughty. I was happy because I thought I got another chance, but then the next day he was cold, and started being mean, telling me he was jerking me around, because it was fun, and he was bored. So we fought, and that was the end of it. He texted me later saying this version of goodnight that we always used to show affection, and I told him to stop it, so he just keep texting it over and over. I told him that I hated it when he did that because it made me feel like things were good between us, and he said "That's a bad guess. Or is it?"I'm just so confused. I noticed today I focused a lot on how it probably wasn't going to work, and all his negative behaviors, and started worrying, so I think I sabotaged myself there.I guess I just don't know if I should keep trying, or if it's hopeless. I'm so confused, once upon a time he really loved me, and wanted to be with me forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2011): He has learnt to be an abusive, controlling, manipulative young man and has decided you are his target to torment. He even comes across as a misogynic twerp! (he hates women)
Make a rule, as soon as the abuse and games begin- kick the LOSER out of your life. Why tolerate anyones garbage? When you do, they treat you like garbage.
"the next day he was cold, and started being mean, telling
me he was jerking me around, because it was fun, and he was bored."
He was telling you the truth in the statement above. Just because he PLAYS at being nice, doesn't mean he
s a good guy, he isn't.
HE HAS EXTREME ISSUES. Black list his number, block his texts, block his emails. Block him from FB.
If he continues to harass you, Tell Mom & Dad. Get some Help. You have a bully/abuser that has targeted you.
Let us know how things go.
*hugs*
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female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 November 2011):
 That's life am afraid honey, people change as they get older and fall out of love. This really is not worth it, he is messing with your head for his own private enjoyment. It is sick and you should stop giving in to him. He knows you are weak when it comes to this and he is using you so that he knows someone is offering to give him some sort of attention. block him from your emails and stop texting him back, he is not worth it and you are going to be the one that keeps getting hurt all the time. Clean break from him and don't look back. He is messing with your head and your feelings.
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