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writes:Right, I have this friend - Me and her often get along great and we have a good chatter and laugh on msn! However, I get the feeling she's embarrassed to be my mate because often I see her sat with another of her mates and they're laughing at me, takin the mick! I feel really awkward, I mean, she's meant to be my mate! It really hurts sometimes, but then the next day she'll just be her usual self and talking to me - I never mention anything about it, I just try and forget it! I'm not very popular so maybe she's embarrassed in front of her 'popular' mates to talk and have a good laugh with me as we usually do. I just hate the way she whispers about me and laughs behind my back - sometimes she makes it real obvious as well! I've come to a conclusion that her behaviour is due to; either she's embarrassed to be my mate infront of her 'popular mates' or she's basically pretending to be my mate all along and making me look a laughing stock!Oh yeah, and she's always tellin me what a great friend I am and is real fussy with me on msn! can you make any sense of that? What do you all think?
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reader, flower girl +, writes (28 June 2007):
 If i were you i would not take that anymore, if you are not a friend in her eyes in every place and situation then get rid of her because she is so not worth it babe.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 How sad that she is two-faced like that. I suspect she's only pretending to be your friend so she can scoop up information from you on a personal level, and then blab it to her cool friends so they can all have a good laugh at your expense. Please, please, please stop chatting with her on MSN. You're just giving her more fuel to fund this sick, little game. Put a block on her name and start ignorning her at school. You don't need a back-stabber like that in your life. There are plenty of other people to chat with who will want your friendship and be sincere. She is not.
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reader, noreply110  +, writes (28 June 2007):
I would call her out on it, on msn. You are already on the right track. She is probably embarassed to talk to you in person, maybe because she is ashamed of her behavior, or maybe because of her friends.
But most importantly, you don't deserve that. Not even for a second. Friends don't treat each other that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): Drop her. Your friend does this because she is 'immature and shallow", dear. Do you really need people like that in your life, who tear you down and make you feel badly about yourself ? No. Nobody deserves this. Friendship is all about kindness, mutual respect and supportiveness. I think you need to find a new friend. Nothing should give anyone the license to be cruel or enjoy gossiping, at the expense of another's feelings. Your friend is displaying the least admirable quality of a human being. She takes others down to feel superior. Kinda sad, isn't it and it must 'suck to be her'. So don't be disappointed she treats you this way..just be proud of yourself that you recognized this bad side of her, now. Be glad you saw her that her empty moments of personal glory only how how ugly she really is. And realize,you always become 'something better' only through honest good efforts. Too bad this friend doesn't realize that she has become 'nothing' through gloating and being cruel. I suggest you detach completely from her and seek nicer people to be friends with. Choose wiselyand be smart about whom you allow in your life.
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reader, Angel-Face +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Hunni you no what
I think shes just playing you for a joke or she just wants someone to to the mick out of
Just go up to her and ask ''why are you my mate on msn and not now'' That will make her think and if she just says iv never been your friend go on msn with her and ignore her becouse its not fire on you
Hope this helps
I did this becouse i had the same problem and it worked
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): Talk to her about it... in person!
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