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writes:Help! Okay, so i am fourteen, almost fifteen years old. I've never had a boy my age ask me out, ever. I seem to be attracting the older guys. I'm friends with a lot of people, from age 12 to 25, and most of the guys who like me are in their 18-20's. My friends tell me I'm skinny, beautiful, and sweet but i can't seem to get a freshman boy to like me! Is there something wrong here? okay, here is something that my 21 year old male friend said to me.."you're so gorgeous and nice; you're making me feel attracted to you.." This happens a lot, even with older guys that are my friends' friends. What is wrong with me that repels freshman? Reply to this Question
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reader, N3m0  +, writes (29 September 2010):
I just think that the older guys liking younger women liek in your case if just Perverted. Usually it means they just want sex because your younger its easier to impress you or just easier to trick you with words( no offense). Just dont do anythin durastic and try to be yourself eventually youll find someone your age and with your interests. dont believe many older men they usually just want 1 thing seriously.. Ive had a girlfriend for 2 yrs and i hate when guys 25 and older try to talk to her becasue because of her body or just somethin physical.. shes 19 btw im 19. its easy to spot the good from the bad. Like .. HEY BEAUTIFUL!! is not a good sign. Or HEY Shorty .. ETC.. Good luck hope i helped. =)
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (26 September 2010):
 Cause your young, you've not developed into who you will be in say a year. Im 16 and its only recently that guys are into me. and ive changed basicaly everything about myself in the past year cause i wanted to be someone. I changed my hair, my clothes and went to the gym, not to lose weight but to gain stamina so i could run about and have a laugh basicaly :P
You will change so much and become more appealing that you shouldnt worry about guys, cause its when guys are involves that you get hurt tbh.
If you dont think about it, guys will come to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): First of all, these male friends who tell you how beautiful and attractive you are are on the verge of committing a crime. I recommend you focus on ways to find friends who are your own age. I know you said this is hard, but there are a lot of things you can try.
-Get involved in activities at school. Find a club or sport that you enjoy and go for it. Even if you're playing a girl's sport, like volleyball, your new volleyball friends will know plenty of other people in your school (i.e. guys) for you to hang out with.
-Be more outgoing. Sit with new people at lunch if you can and be nice to people in your classes. If you're doing a group project, sign up for a group with someone new or someone who looks interesting.
- Take part in activities outside of school. Do some community service work, like walking dogs for your local animal shelter or joining other kinds of youth groups connected to your church or neighborhood.
But by all means, try to stay away from these grown men who say you are their "friend." It strikes me as odd and creepy that a 21-year-old man who can legally drink, drive, smoke and go to bars would tell a 14-year-old girl she's gorgeous and he's attracted to you.
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