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*enie53uk
writes:ok heres the thing my partner is well broody for a child im 29 and hes 26 . weve been together for 3 years and both think we could do this have a child . hes not working at the moment but looking and im working . im worried and i know i shouldnt be as im 29 but we havent got a place to live both of us living with our parents . and financially how we would cope am i being silly and should i go for it? any advice would be helpful Reply to this Question
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reader, romany +, writes (7 June 2010):
 I think you'd be incredibly selfish to have a baby now.
Being Broody doesn't mean its the right time, you both only 'think' your ready, and neither of you have a place of your own, so 3 years living apart, is very different than living together.
If you both have plans of living happily ever after, then its time to set goals, you will then prove to each other that you are committed, he needs to get a job, then you'll need to rent/buy a home, then 6 months living with each others bad habits, and then go for it.
Personally I'd rather do it that way, and have a stable and loving home for baby, rather than living off the government funding, Income Support will only put you on breadline, living hand to mouth, Then B&B till a council flat comes up, which you have to accept really despite the area, and scouring charity shops and free sites for baby goods.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (7 June 2010):
 Please wait!
Until;
1. You both have a steady income.
2. You have your own place (with enough room for a child)
3. You are able to pays the bills
Otherwise it will turn into a disaster!
Good luck!
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reader, Miamine +, writes (7 June 2010):
 29... as a childless woman, I will say what the nurses told me.. you fertility rapidly declines after 35, we are talking about 50% decay for every year you get older.
There is never a perfect time to have a child, never enough money, never enough space, never enough experience or anything else.
Children make you fight, they give you reasons to set goals and achieve them anyway you can. Children make you better than you would be without them..
Don't leave things to late my dear and suffer with the regrets that childless women like me have...
The time is never perfect.. I say let nature and fate take it's course....
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