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writes: There's this guy. We aren't really friends or anything but we have spoken. From the conversations we've had, he seems smart, interested in you and what you have to say and has a great sense of humour. I've known of him for about 7 months now, but I've never really tried to get to know him better because everytime I see him, my stomach flips.I've had a few minor crushes before, but never anything big. I've actually only been out with two guys, neither of them for very long (a few weeks - the butterflies I get when they spoke to me didn't last very long AT ALL). Before any one goes mad, I don't think it's love because it's just not.I just need to know if I'm like obsessed or just have a great big fat crush on him, and I'd like some input from people other than myself.The first time I saw him, I got butterflies. Whoopy dee doo. After speaking a few times, everytime I saw him my heart started going crazy and I'd start blushing like a madman. When he spoke to me, my mind went blank and I know I must look like an idiot to him. Okay, this sounds gross, but recently I've started getting incredibly flustered around him that sometimes I sweat like a pig! It's disgusting to me and I have do everything I can to keep him away from me in case I smell. But aside from that, when it's just me and him, I feel kind of relaxed and just happy. He's so nice, and he's so good at pretending to care about me it's unbelievable. It's crazy because I haven't been able to get him out of my head for the whole 7 months, whilst with other crushes, I'd be interested for a few weeks, couple of months tops (I'm not a player, just find myself attracted to guys but not enough to think much of it).I can't meet his eye though when he's trying to talk to me. He looks annoyed after we've spoken and I feel like shit, because I could have said something interesting to make him at least think I have opinions.I haven't poured out every single detail about what happens during our encounters because it's all mushed-up, confused, teenage heartache, and I know it's not love because aren't you meant to be happy with them, and not feel freaking gross and sweaty all the time? I'd just like some outside opinions.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Its a shame they dont teach how to flirt at school as a lot of young people find it hard to make that initial break with someone they really like.
There are loads of articles on flirting on the internet. Read up.
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reader, dianef  +, writes (24 March 2011):
The FIRST thing you have to do is relax !!!!! It sounds like you have a massive crush and that is normal...It is obvious that is likes you because he is talking to you and trying to get to know you better...Take a few deep breaths and remember,,he is probably just as nervous as you are !!! Try to make eye contact with him when you talk to him,smile, and be yourself..You said he was really nice so start opening up to him and see what happens !!! Good Luck:)
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