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writes: There is this guy who I met online about 6 months ago, we chatted a couple of times, he liked all my profile photos and albums, he seems like a big fan of me and comments on my photos things like " very attractive" beautiful and such complements, then he wanted to take my phone number and I finally gave it to him and he called me a lot, but I only picked up a couple of times out of 80 calls or so. He finally decided to come visit the country I'm in and learn the lanugage, we went on two dates, then he moved up north on business and a tour and promised to get back in touch with me once he's back where I live and meet up. Do you think he's interested in me as person, as in get to know me more and possibly a relationship or is he just a player who wanted to secure himself some connections just in case he needed some while he's in a foreign country. He didn't ask me for any favours apart from renting a bedsit which he ended up not taking, so that was really not much of a hassle for me. I think he likes me, but he might be afraid of rejection given that I began to accept his "friendship" very slwoly like an oven, you know women heat up like an oven, their interest is raised gradually and now that's I'm all hot and warmed up to start something with him, he puts me on the backburner saying he'll be back in two weeks to spend February and March with me, should I just give it more time and be patient, or write him off. He doesn't call me as often as he did, in fact he hadn't called me in over 10 days and only sends texts and messages saying that he's sorry but he's had problems that he can't even explain on the phone!! Help please I'm at my wits end. thanks a lot to you all agony aunts xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFYI: I did NOT sleep with him.
I didn't intentionally take his long-distance calls, he happened to call in times when I was working, looking after my ailing dad in the hospital, or when I was walking the dog, I made it clear to him that I'm NOT a phone person! I guess I really send mixed signals as there are a lot of things binding me really on my way to intimacy, number one would be getting to know players and being played by men and their ways. I never succumbed to anyone and it seems never will any time soon :(
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reader, SonOfMan  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 If alarm bells are ringing in your head then leave it and save yourself the hassle.
Try a more traditional method of dating and take it slow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): I seriously doubt fear of rejection is holding him back...you slept with him didn't you? More likely, you aren't the only woman he's seeing or having sex with. Like he says, he'll contact you when he's in your area for a warm bed to sleep in. I'd write him off if more is what you want.
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