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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I was once close to this guy I loved him even, but we were never boyfriend and girlfriend. We hooked up a couple of times, (I was younger).I just assumed it wasn't going anyhwere, so I never told him how I felt. I've always regretted making that decision, but felt it was the right one. He was seeing other girls and I just didn't want to be the girl who messed with a guy in hopes that he seen something special in her my whole life. We're in contact now after years, and he recently told me that he used to like me, he even got all bent out of shape because he said he didn't understand how I could have just walked away if I loved him, and his questioning that, hurt me. The fact that he wont allow himself to be my friend hurts me more. We've text, sent pics, and talked on the phone a couple of times, but he refuses to see me. Recently I text him twice and he never responded back. whats his deal??Is there no point in trying to be friends?? We were close at one point. Am I selfish to want this??
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): No, you aren't selfish, so don't question yourself. I'm thinking that maybe this guy is just scared. I don't know how long ago it was that you two were close, but people change over time. Are you sure you're not just in love with who he used to be? If you told him how you felt, he might just need some time to absorb that, so give it a little bit of time and then see what happens. If it leads nowhere, just keep in mind that he isn't the one for you, but there is someone out there that you will one day have feelings just as strong for, maybe even stronger.
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