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writes: Hi,I'm a 12 year old lass and I'm in year 7.I really like this teacher who is in his 20's - 30'sand it hurts because he doesn't know who I am. Even though I know it is never going to happen I nearly cry myself to sleep knowing that. I really want to get over this but I daren't talk to no-one and it makes my life hard at school. I want to get over it.HELP PLEASE!!Love kirsty Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006): Tell him how much he means to you. Do not touch him nor allow him to touch you. Let your love be mental.Once you are of legal age for physical love, if the love is still there, get married and revel in the ecstacy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2005): I am so sorry sweetie.
You will get over him. i am so sorry it has to be this way. but look up there are other people who probably love you so much its would kill them if you turned them away. it doesnt matter if its your mom, your best friend, or an aunt. trust me, babe, you'll get over them faster than you can bat an eye. besides, your young, and beautiful. this guy is like 30. he'll be old once you become old enough, and...well, there are others.
chin up sweetie.
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reader, kirsty2hot +, writes (15 July 2005):
Hi this is me kirsty i just want to say to you all who answered thanks for your help and i'm gr8 now:D:D:D:D
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reader, becky05 +, writes (13 July 2005):
This is normal for someone your age. The feelings will go away in time. Please do not act upon your feelings. Get out with friends and try to forget about your teacher.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2005): Having a crush on a teacher is very common in middle school and high school. Even elementary school children may develop serious crushes on their teachers. I would guess that he is a handsome, nice person and he has treated you with utmost respect and kindness. But 20-30 year old teachers do not look for girlfriends among their students. They are forbidden by the school and by the law to engage in anything beyond a friendly teacher/student relationship. It's probably hard for you to think he likes you only in this limited non-romantic way but you will have to learn to accept the boundaries that must exist between students and teachers.
You will have to accept the fact that the relationship you may wish with him can exist only in your mind. Sometimes we develop crushes about people we know we can never have a real-life relationship with - it's safer than going after a real-life relationship and being rejected.
You might learn some important things about yourself from your crush on this teacher, though. By identifying the things that you admire in this teacher, you'll see what qualities are important to you when you get older and have opportunities to date boys your own age. Please don't expect the boys your age to match up with this teacher in terms of maturity, but take note of how nice & respectful this teacher is..and base future dating choices on those fine qualities in a person. Hopefully your thoughts and dreams about this teacher do NOT dominate most of your thinking as it could hinder your ability to lead a normal 12 year-old's social life. Please enjoy being a 12 year old girl and have fun with kids your own age.
I know that your feelings are real and intense. I hope that my advice has helped you understand how to put them in perspective. Take Care, dear
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reader, Lovechik +, writes (12 July 2005):
This is a crush and it will pass in time. In the mean time think of all the good times you could be having not thinking about this teacher. So dont worry and have fun huni!
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