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writes:Readers, tomorrow I am going on my first date since splitting with my bf of 9 years in Aug '09 (after I discovered he was cheating on me), and I am terrified and need some advice, please! We met via an online dating service (never thought I'd use such a thing, but my friend had met some cool guys through it), have been messaging a couple of months, and are meeting up half way between our respective home towns tomorrow. I never thought I'd be able to try and move on from my ex, but it kinda feels like it is time to get out there again :) I just want him and me to have a nice time and get to each other, but haven't been on a first date for so long! It feels like a big step, and I'm so nervous. I can't decide what to wear, and worry I won't know what to say... And what if it turns out we have nothing in common?We're meeting for coffee and maybe a meal. Any advice on how to have a good first date, what to wear, what to talk about, how to deal with any awkwardness, etc would be so gratefully received. Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): Hi. I dated via the internet but i never called it a date. Just meeting a friend for a drink. That way it took the pressure off me and i was far more relaxed because lets face it. At this stage it is just a drink to see how you get along with each other. CaringGuy is so right to warn you about being safe. Make sure you have thr guys personal details stored with a friend and let them know exactly where you are going ect. Dont be tempted to go elsehwere with him until you feel you know him better. Dating is exciting and can lead to happiness if you find the right guy but keep your heart firmly under lock and key for a while. You are fresh on the scene again and it will be easy to get hurt, so be careful out there. For now, just relax and enjoy the company. Hope you have a lovely time x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): this is hard but also soo exciting. Just be yourself. If he likes you he will like you for who you are. if you are in the mood wear jeans you will look great!
Best of Luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 March 2010):
1 - Stop worrying so much.
2 - Make sure you remain safe at all times in public places, and make sure that at least one friend knows where you're going.
3 - Wear what you feel comfortbale in. A man likes a woman for who she is. So if you're a jeans and T-Shirt girl, wear that. If you're a blouse and skirt girl, wear that. And so on.
4 - Limit the amount of make-up you put on for the same reason.
5 - Be honest. There is no need to lie. He will like you for who you are.
6 - Ask questions and answer questions. But don't push too much too fast. Don't ask him about ex's and sex life and such. Ask him who he is. Ask about hobbies, work and such.
7 - Have a good time! You're going to be all right. If you've been speaking for some time have both been honest, then you'll already have stuff in common.
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