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writes:I've been in a relationship 19 years. My partner is 11 yrs younger than I am. How important is participating in home activities, ie, know which light switch is which; know in which cabinet the glasses are kept; picking up after yourself and even your partner at times; helping out with chores around the house, etc. etc. You get the point. My partner has always thought me small minded when I complain he doesn't help out. He doesn't get how much time is involved in picking up after him yet when it comes to choosing a new color or piece of furniture he's right there want to give his input. I'm sick and tired of being his mommy. I've tried everything. Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): I was in a relationship for over 16 years with a man that was 7 years younger than me...I was his mommy,nurse, secretary, counselor, and...punching bag...I finally left and am on the right track once again. But I don't think is as much about age as it is about the way he was brought up. Some men just think that is all part of a wife's job. I suppose they get that from the way thier mothers' were. I know it sucks! I don't have any clever answers for you. But I can tell you if he hasn't changed in 19 years, he never will! Sorry but it's the truth! You can stop cleaning up after him, but if he's anything like mine was, he'll probably bitch that the house is a mess!
I know exactly how you feel, it's frustrating.
One thing I can say though, if his good qualities outweigh his bad, then overlook it. But if the bad outweigh the good (as in my case) well...you decide!
Best of Luck
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