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writes: I've met my current partner few months ago over the internet. I was far from a happy person at the time, I was shortly after being rejected by someone I was courting and all in all it everything was going just... plain bad. I wasn't even considering getting together with my current boyfriend at the time. But, we ended up talking. I knew that my former situation looked pathetic, so instead of calling it by name, I simply said I was dumped by a guy. I also didn't tell my true age, I sadly have a bad habit of that. I came clear about age issue shortly after, and he didn't mind it much. He just asked me to never lie to him again. I sorta 'gave in' into my own interpretation of happenings with the guy I was courting, since it seemed better, didn't made me feel quite so bad. And as with all lies, it started spinning off into other, smaller things. How long I've been with him. That I wasn't a virgin, while I was. It's a good while now that me and my current boyfriend are together. The untrue things I told him were... back then, when I didn't even plan to date him. I didn't lie to him since. And yet, my conscience is bothering me. The odds of the lie surfacing and being a problem are very slim to nonexistent, and I can't come clear on that. It will spell end of the relationship, which we both are putting a lot of effort in.I'm not a deceptive person and I'd never mean to hurt him. Can I just continue on, move away from the past and never talk about it again? Is there any chance that feeling bad about it will just pass? It didn't start right away, kicked in just lately, after over half a year. I'm really at loss of what to do with myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): I have learned that being honest in relationships, that have intamacy especially, is important. Sharing, communicating, being open is an integral part in developing a trusting healthy relationship. So if you feel that your past untruths and unshared information are not deal breakers, then it is best to bring them out and then really work to continue on being open and honest from here forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): If i find someone has stolen a pen from my desk. I know he would try to steal my wife.
A small lie....says 'hey I lie'
If someone asks you a question tell the truth. Nothing will grow on the ground you are cultivating, it's impossible.
Good luck
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