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writes:Me and my boyfriend have known each other about 4 months now and have dated about 3 months. at first we were all over each other. that lasted for about a month, if that. now he doesn't pay any attention to me unless he wants sex, which he hardly wants it. and won't even sit with me on the couch to watch a movie. i have confronted him about it and he said i'm smothering him. and leave him alone because he's watching tv. all he does is work and watch tv.he says he still loves me but i don't think he does. he doesn't even text me anymore while he's at work. what could be going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): If he is acting like this after dating for three months then there must be something on his mind ask him what itis and try to help him solve his problem
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): i hate to say it but maybe u have just drifted apart,
there can be many reasons for it, but the main one and the most unpleasent one is hes cheating
i hope im wrong
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reader, lifehasnorules  +, writes (4 May 2008):
If, after 4 short months he treates you like this..why are you sticking around and putting up with it? If you let a man treat you like a doormat he will continue to do so and it will never get better. If a man told me I was smothering him...I would get up and he could kiss my butt on the way out the door. OK so my guess is he has another girl and can´t get the courage up to tell you.
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reader, Kimaxsi +, writes (4 May 2008):
Well all men even the most affectionate go through a period where they are caught up in their head, working on some problem or personal issue that has nothing to do with their lovers and sometimes it takes a while before they'll open up about their silence and grumpiness and tell you what the hell was bothering them. That would probably be a best scenario picture. You could try giving him some space, still being loving and available to talk and wait it out for a bit see if it clears up on its own. Since he's still around you, in the same place and not off with buddies or chatting up other girls it could be the case. You could try asking him how he is doing generally see what he says.
Does he have commitment issues? Do you know how long his previous relationship have lasted? Has he ever been in a long term relationship? Did you have a firm foundation a good relationship, strong chemistry and a strong bond before you first had sex? Do you live together? The relationship is rather short maybe it happened a bit quickly for him or after the initial rush wore off he's sort of wondering about the state of the relationship. I think most people in the beginning will question where a relationship is headed and if they like the direction and want to pursue it or if they don't. Once he makes a decision on this, if its in your favor the bond will probably be stronger.
He could also be like some guys alright I've got the girl, courting is officially over I don't need to work anymore at this, ya know some people don't realize you have to keep the romance alive and actually do things together and actually communicate for it to be healthy. So you might just have a lazy complacent guy who will need a talking too lol
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