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writes:I'm 21 going on 22 and I've never had an orgasm. I was sexually abused when I was young, but I do feel that I'm "over it". I enjoy sex, i just can't seem to have one. And I think it's starting to get in the way of my relationship. Is there something wrong with me? I really do feel that there is. Should I be getting help??
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reader, shelleyanne +, writes (7 November 2008):
 Have you tried giving yourself one, when your boyfriend isn't present? Finding out what works for you on your own time (without the added pressure of your boyfriend being there) will do wonders for you. Take your time. Find out what feels good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): Hi. Well, I was 25 before I had an orgasm!! You feel you're over your abuse in childhood, which is good - you've obviously dealt with it and you say you enjoy sex. Maybe if it's on your mind that you haven't had an orgasm, you're not quite as relaxed as you could be and this could be a reason. If I'm anxious about something, it affects my ability to orgasm. Take your time with your partner with oral sex and also take time on your own when you're relaxed. Don't worry that there's something wrong with you - once you've had an orgasm, you will then know how to do it again, and again (!) and there'll be no stopping you. x
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