Beard or Sheared?
Q. I am trying to get close to girl at the moment and am hoping to make a move over the few times we go out but i am wondering if i should shave. I have about 10 days worth of growth and like to keep it that way because i think i look far too young ...
A. 4 September 2008: My personal opinion is a beard is fine as long as it's not out of control. I don't like mustaches so maybe you could get rid of that and keep the rest?... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend so it won't hurt her so much the next time we have sex?
Q. My girlfriend and i had sex together for the first time. We did it twice and she bled both times. The first time she bled more than the second (the 2nd was only a little bit) She was in some pain and it was hard for me to go inside her because she's ...
A. 13 August 2008: Next time the two of you decide to have sex start by fingering her first. If you do that for a while it should relax her and her muscles so it won't be so painfull. Also it can be painful if a woman isn't properly lubricated. I hope you're already ... (read in full...)
I've got itching and burning pains "down there". I can't show it to my male doctor. What can I do?
Q. My question is really personal and embarrassing, but I need some answers for it if possible. Ok, so my problem is "down there". About 3 weeks ago I started to get itchy "down there", insanely itchy and then I'd get burning pains, too. I always ...
A. 13 August 2008: The same thing happened to me when I was 15. I let the itching go on for over a month, because I was too embarassed to tell someone. Many times there is a female doctor who also works at the office. You should have your mom call back and request her ... (read in full...)
I don't know what I should do if she cheated on me!
Q. i really love my girl friend we hav been together for 3 years in 15 and shes 18 wut should i do if she cheated on me for i dont know 3 weeks should i go back out with her ? she cheayed on me cuz she heard i was cheating her which wasnt true....
A. 31 July 2008: If she's 15 she's probably too young to be tied down in a relationship anyway. She's cheating because she isn't ready to be a girlfriend yet. I suggest you break up with her, if not for her sake then for your's, because you deserve a girl on your ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my boyfriends best friend
Q. i have a boyfriend that i have been seeing for a year now,problem is he broke up with me two times and asked me back and i accepted,thing is now his best friend says he is inlove with me and i am inlove with him too, i think about his best friend ...
A. 31 July 2008: I've been there sweetheart. My advice is to leave them both alone. Your boyfriend obviously doesn't know what he wants, and neither do you. As for dating his best friend. Just don't do it. I know you're going to make your own mistakes, but i know ... (read in full...)
Can you answer questions about sex?
Q. can you answer quetions about sex?...
A. 31 July 2008: Yes. What's the question?... (read in full...)
I am a ratty person and I get annoyed when I crave something and don't get it
Q. My GF wants a break away from sex as she said she gets hurt sometimes, im worried that this will make our r'ship break because I know sex aint the only thing in the relationship but it is one main key to a relationship. I'm a ratty person and I get ...
A. 31 July 2008: I know from experience that girls are terrified of losing their relationship to sex. Every friend I have has at one point told me they're taking a break from sex with their boyfriend because they don't want sex to take over. You are right that sex ... (read in full...)
I need some tips on talking dirty!
Q. As stupid as this sounds, i don't know how to dirty talk. Can anyone give me some things to say because he told me he loves it when i dirty talk but i honestly suck at it :(...
A. 30 July 2008: It's fairly easy. The basic version is just to narrate what you're doing. Things like, I love how your *blank* feels in/on my *blank*. Insert whatever body part is appropriate. I used to be a little shy about it so if you feel silly, try pretending ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my girlfriend not being ready to have sex? I'm tired of waiting.
Q. Okay - So, I've been dating a girl that studies with me (collage) for about 10+ months already, and we haven't had sex yet. We are both virgins - believe it or not! I really like her and I know she really likes me, but I don't know why she doesn...
A. 27 July 2008: It sounds like she's making excuses because she's scared. If you love her you wil wait, no questions asked. The fact that you said she felt strange and uncomfortable about you going down on her makes me wonder if the two of you are comfortable ... (read in full...)
Poll question for women: do you like oral and would you like your partner more for it?
Q. Do girls like when a guy goes down on them? And would you like your boyfriend more if he did that?...
A. 25 July 2008: Yes, I love it.
No, I wouldn't necessarly like him more, but if a guy won't give a girl oral he should not expect it in return.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't have sex with me any more. Help!
Q. My boyfriend wont have sex with me or even make out with me anymore! What do i do?!?! He says he's afraid of getting me pregnant, but im on birth control, we use condoms, and he even pulls out. He stresses way too much over it. How can i get him to ...
A. 25 July 2008: Maybe you could still give him oral sex and vice versa. Talk to him. Tell him that even though he doesn't want to have sex you'd love to do other things to please him, and that you hope he'd like to do the same for you.... (read in full...)
I don't seem to be quite a normal shape "down there". Will guys have a problem with this?
Q. My vagina, a lot like a handful of other girls has large lips. I have been reading all of the answers saying 'oh! its no problem!' and i soon became fine with them. But i also have another problem. The hood on my clitorous seems a lot larger them ...
A. 20 July 2008: You sound just like me and my friends. We've all seen eachother naked and compare these things too, and I can tell you not one of us is exactly the same. I'm even friends with twin sisters, and they aren't even the same down there. There is no right ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend is always trying to make me jealous, sad, hurt my feelings!
Q. OK, i have been dating my girlfriend for about 6 years now. We are high school Lovers. Are relationship has been really good. Until about a year ago. She cheated on me 2 times. And im the guy whos been faithful about this relationship in the past 6 ...
A. 11 July 2008: Well, you definitely shouldn't have done that, but she hasn't responded as an adult either. Saying that she hates you and wishes you were dead does not say "loving relationship" to me. She's probably feeling quite guilty for cheating on you. Because ... (read in full...)
I didn't reach to climaxing in my relationships, does my problem have anything to do with the way I masturbate?
Q. When i masturbate, i do it face down, rubbing my clitoris in a pillow, floor or bed and my orgasms are amazing. I've tried to masturbate the regular way, just by sitting or laying down on a bed face up, and rub my clitoris with my fingers or ...
A. 11 July 2008: Hmm, well from what you've said maybe you should try a different position. For instane, if he normally goes down on you with you lying on your back maybe you could try it with him lying down, and you over him. That way you have more control of the ... (read in full...)
How do I properly dispose of the evidence so that my family isn't suspicious of my masturbating?
Q. I masturbate regularly, about 2-3 sometimes 4 times a day. My parents don't know, neither does my sister. I think that they are starting to get suspicious tho, I don't know how to properly dispose of the evidence...What should I do???...
A. 10 July 2008: Could you just do it when you shower?... (read in full...)
After a nine month break, has the chemistry gone?
Q. Hi all, just looking for some advise. My guy of 5 years and i recently had a 9 month break to sort out what we both wanted out of life, and have decided to give things another go. I love him with all my heart, and really want to start a family a...
A. 10 July 2008: Hey, I'm definitely going through the same thing as you with my boyfriend. We took a five month break after three years and things were a bit dull once we were back together. Little things have really helped us put a bit of the excitement back int... (read in full...)
Confused about who my baby's father is...
Q. hi my name is valsha and i am 18 weeks pregnant if i messed with my friend on feburary 24 is it possible that my baby is his....
A. 7 July 2008: Sorry to say it, but I did the math and the date you messed around with your friend is almost 4.5 months ago, 18 weeks. So yes, the baby could be his. Of course, this doesn't mean for sure that it was him if you also were having sex with someone ... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex, as such, am I still a virgin?
Q. I'm a virgin, and my boyfriend was fingering me. it started to hurt eventually, but i ignored it. After we finished fooling around, i was bleeding. He pointed it out to me. Did he break my Hymen?? Or is it something else? If my Hymen is broken,...
A. 7 July 2008: You're still a virgin. Until you have sex, you will be. There are plenty of ways to break your hymen completely unrelated to sex, like using a tampon.... (read in full...)
Are there many who are "saving themselves for marriage"?
Q. How many Christians who go to church on a regular basis do you think are saving themselves for marriage these days?...
A. 30 June 2008: I don't think many people are saving themselves these days. About four years ago I attended a youth group at my best friend's church and we all took a pledge of chastity until marriage. My best friend has since had sex with two people, me with one, ... (read in full...)
How concerned should I be about the chances of pregnancy?
Q. i could be a week pregnant but im not sure. but my question is what is the chance? i have the feeling that my worrying is delaying my periode from the stress so thats why i need an answer soon. me and my bf been having sex this past week and im on ...
A. 30 June 2008: Take a pregnancy test sweetheart, then you'll know for sure. It's very possible that your stress is delaying your period. It does not seem very likely that you're pregnant because even though you didn't use a condom once, you are on the pill and ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and wants to be with me forever, yet he won't commit to me officially!
Q. i have been with this guy now for over 12months, but we are not a couple, so in other words he wont commit to me and make me his girlfriend, he hasnt met my family and i havent met his, we are both not seeing anyone else and he is very much in love ...
A. 30 June 2008: It sounds to me as though he cares for you a great deal, but in the back of his mind wants to keep his options open. It is possible that he loves you, but if he isn't willing to commit to you, then love along won't take you anywhere. I agree will ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that she's pregnant??
Q. Hi all im a male aged 22. My girlfriend and i had sex(unprotected). She was on my lap and eventually turn to missionery with her on top. I ejaculated during da lap position. She asked how many times did i come inside her and it was only during t...
A. 30 June 2008: The longer you wait, the more likely it is to be accurate. If you really want to know, you could go to a clinic and get a professional blood or urine test.... (read in full...)
How can I tell her about the armpit hair without hurting her feelings?
Q. I've noticed my girlfriend has started growing armpit hair. I find it a real turn off and she never used to have it.How can i tell her to get rid of it without hurting her feelings?...
A. 29 June 2008: More than likely she's always had it, but usually shaves it. The fact that she didn't this time probably means she's getting more comfortable with you, and doesn't feel the need to shave everytime she sees you. Maybe you should take it as a ... (read in full...)
Anything "different" that we can do in order to postpone actual sex?
Q. SO my boyfriend of about a year and a half keeps saying he wants us to do something "new". But I'm not ready to have sex yet. We've done: handjob, blowjob, finger and "eat out".. is there anything 'different' that we can do?...
A. 29 June 2008: You could get naked and rub your bodies against eachother without actual penetration. Just be careful that he doesn't cum near your opening, because there is still the slim chance you could get pregnant that way. Try new tricks to make the things y... (read in full...)
Ladies, how do you want us to kiss you?
Q. I have seen many many articles bashing guys on how to kiss. Well ladies exactly how do you like to be kissed? exactly what is it that makes your toes curl and your hair stand on end? i would like to know so that i can be the best i can....
A. 29 June 2008: One guy I kissed opened him mouth as wide as he could (which was awkward for me because my mouth is on the smaller side), stuck his tongue in my mouth, and waggled it around as fast as he could. It felt like a very wet rattle snake.
Always star... (read in full...)
I need techniques to make my boyfriend cum?
Q. My b/f says ive never made him cum.i need some techiniques....
A. 29 June 2008: Maybe your boyfriend has an issue. My friend's boyfriend, for instance, lasts ridiculously long for the average male, so it takes quite a bit more work to make him cum. You should find a sex position where neither of you will get tired so it can ... (read in full...)
Embarrassing pubic hair. Is this normal for guys?
Q. I'm 19 and I have a bit of an embarrassing problem. Well actually, I don't even know if it's really a problem, or something a lot of people go through, because it isn't something people discuss. Whatever it is, it's starting to cause me ...
A. 29 June 2008: It's not a problem, I know plenty of guys who have that. If it's bothering you, try shaving or waxing. Of course, it may start to itch when it grows back in, so you're probably better off leaving it alone.... (read in full...)
Is it possible that she's pregnant??
Q. Hi all im a male aged 22. My girlfriend and i had sex(unprotected). She was on my lap and eventually turn to missionery with her on top. I ejaculated during da lap position. She asked how many times did i come inside her and it was only during t...
A. 29 June 2008: You don't have to wait for her period. Go to any convenience store and look for brands like First Response pregnancy test. They are able to predict pregnancy several days before her missed period. ... (read in full...)
I want to surprise him when we have sex for our first time together...how can I do this??
Q. hey all. i have been with my man for two months. weve tried to have sex, but circumstances havent allowed us! i really want to surprise him for our first time together but unsure of what to do...? its going to be in a hotel room, so i was thinking ...
A. 29 June 2008: I think that's a great idea. Also, to add to the atmosphere, you could put on music and play all of your shared favorite songs. I don't know if your into candles, but their great for setting the scene. Of course, since this will be your first time ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is loose and that he does not feel a thing... what can I do? How do I fix it?
Q. I have not cheated why does my vagina feel loose... my boyfriend thinks that I've cheated... before he even mentioned it, I have been noticing a diffrence with our sex life... when we have sex my vagina has no tightness to it.. I try and ...
A. 19 June 2008: I can't believe he would tell you that. Even if it is true, you're working on it, and that should be enough for him.
Is your boyfriend on any kinds of medication? I had a boyfriend who, because of his anti-depressants and other mood stab... (read in full...)
What actually happens when you have a bikini wax?
Q. I was reading some recent posts and realized I had a question about something but never knew who to ask. What actually happens when you go for a bikini wax? Do you take everything off and sit there with your legs open? I've only had my eyebrows ...
A. 22 May 2008: I've never had a bikini wax, but it's something that I'd like to do. The people who work there are professionals. When you go in just let them know that it's your first time and that you're a little nervous. They'll tell you exactly what to do, and ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one that has breasts like this? It makes me insecure!
Q. I have a question. I am insecure about my breasts. I have large breasts which men love, but the colored part around my nipple seems realy big to me compared to other breasts i've seen. Does it matter. Do men prefer one or the other? Am I the only ...
A. 5 May 2008: Don't worry at all. I have the same as you. I used to be really self-conscious about them too, but eventually I realized that to most men boobs are boobs.... (read in full...)
Midlife crisis---What are the differences for men...and women?
Q. What happens to guys vs. women when they go through the so called midlife crisis and at what age is it?...
A. 22 February 2008: Well, for males just watch the movie American Beauty, that's the male mid-life crisis in a nutshell.
My aunt just turned forty and she got her belly button pierced and started sleeping with men in their twenties. That was her mid-life crisis. ... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm bi but I fantasise about girls and I have a boyfriend.
Q. I find myself thinking about girls alot. im straight, i have a boyfriend of a year and a half now, nad i love him with all of my heart. but i also think that im attracted to girls. i think about doing things with girls all of the time and i have ...
A. 21 February 2008: Don't worry, me too. I'm not really interested in having a relationship with a girl, but I find girls just as attractive as boys and have fantasized about them. I've had a few experiences with girls I know, and it's been a lot of fun.
Don't be afra... (read in full...)
Poll question: how far have you gone (14 year olds)
Q. hey everyone Me and my bestie are both 14. She is really worried that she hasn't done anything (sexualy) before. I'm not talking about fully having sex but even a hook up. So i want to start a poll for all the 14 year olds out there. How f...
A. 20 February 2008: I had my first kiss when I was 14 going on 15 years old. That's all. There's no right age for things to start happening, so tell your friend not to worry.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to fantasise about men other than my boyfriend?
Q. Is it okay to fantasize about other men other than my boyfriend or watch movies with actors that I find very attractive? I wouldn't do this if he was around, only when I'm alone and if the urge sometimes comes up and I don't watch movies that ...
A. 15 February 2008: I'm pretty sure that's just one of those things that everybody does, but don't necessarilly want to admit to. It's completely natural as long as you a) aren't planning on acting on these impulses or b) aren't setting standards for your man that he ... (read in full...)
She loves someone else, but what about us?
Q. Last summer/early fall, I started to suspect that my wife's attention was elsewhere. Especially concerning a really good friend of ours. This guy is in the middle of a terrible divorce with a wife that is being diagnosed with serious personality ...
A. 8 February 2008: Break it off with your wife. It will be hard, but you deserve a women who is all there for your relationship. In the end I believe everyone will be happier. I also think your wife is deluded in believing she can truly spread her love between the two ... (read in full...)
Why the change of heart once I actually buy the ring?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 13 years and we just bought a house 8 months ago. She has been asking me about getting married for the past year and getting excited till she found out I bought a ring then I woke up one morning and she threw me ...
A. 7 February 2008: Here's my girl perspective on this whole situation.
On my birthday this year I was convinced my boyfriend was going to propose to me (he didn't). The second I heard this I had the most unnatural urge to run in the opposite direction. I was scar... (read in full...)
Masterbating behind girlfriends back, bad?
Q. I masturbate, maybe two or three times a week, I try not to do it so much, because, honestly, it makes me feel really bad about myself, being, that I have a girlfriend. I feel like I'm the worst guy in the world, and it makes me really depressed. I...
A. 7 February 2008: It's good for you. Keep it up.
Work on your communication with your girlfriend. You'll probably be surprised to find that she doesn't mind at all. The only reason masturbation should be a bad thing is when it turns into an obsession like porn addi... (read in full...)
I am having an affair. Part of me wants to stop, but part of me doesnt.
Q. I am having an affair and I am unable to end it. I have been married for 8 years now and I have a great hubby. But..6 months ago I met a guy who just blew my mind. At first it was just great conversation and flirting.. but I admit I knew where it ...
A. 7 February 2008: The truth of it is, you can't have both. You, at some point, are going to need to make decision. Take it from someone who is learning this the hard way, each second you spend with "the other man" is making your marriage mean less and less. Sadly, ... (read in full...)
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