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*ennia4life
writes:My ex bestfriend sarah and I got into a big fight at the end of the school year. I brought a girl named Leasette that she didnt like to the lunch table because Leasette was to scared to sit at the table because of her and was sitting by herself . I said thats enough and brought her to the table. She was ignoring me and 2 other girls too because they thought it was wrong for me to do that because i shouldve talked with sarah first. there was mean txts and it was a big fight. At school they were ignoring me trying to hurt my feelings. So summer came around and she txted me saying that shes sorry and apologizing. i forgave her, and we talked. but then it was awkward because all the mean things she said kept coming into my head. so i just stopped texting her fo 2 days. Then my friend copied and pasted a message of her saying that she doesnt like me and she doesnt want to talk to me behind my back. so we both were invited to a party and didnt speak. 1 of the 2 girls sent a txt and apologized. But i didnt text back because she is just a follower. Now they go to a different school, and we have all the same friends. She was telling everyone she hates me and cant stand me with 1 of the 2 girls and spreading it around at that school. I believe shes just saying that because a-she might actually mean it. b-because im not there so shes probably doing it for attention and to get over me c- or she actually doesnt care. I keep thinking about the situation its been 2 months. Should i just move on? she got me through everything. Shes done with me? What should i do? If i do something that is communicating with her, she will tell everyone and make it seem im the crawling back to her and i will look really stupid and shes a bully type., but i have so many emotions. Everyone is saying to give it up. Let go and Move on. Thats what ive been doing so far its going really well but evey once in a while something reminds me of it, and i go through a phase. PLEASE HELP PLEASE HELP
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (2 November 2011):
 The only way to move on is to concentrate on your schoolwork and try and make some new friends. But its going to take time. You're not just going to be able to stop thinking about it all until you actually leave school and get away from this horrid specimin, so it's gonna be rough for you, but as i said, you need to throw yourself into your studies.
With regards to new friends, what about Leasette? Surely she can see what a nice person you are, seeing as you tried to include her in the first place, maybe you could hang out together?
High School is terrible sometimes, but once you get yourself good grades, good career, nice husband, nice house and you're former best friend has none of that, then you'll be the one laughing!
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reader, jennia4life +, writes (2 November 2011):
jennia4life is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys.! But i still think about her everyday, just like the loss of my last friendship kayla and its been 3 years now. Its just really hard on me to have people who hate me ignore me. I know i sound weak and like a baby, but I showed those two girls my life, they were deep in my heart, and they really meant everything to me. But, i know my decision is to move on(definately) but people tell me "Move on" "Let go" HOW DO YOU DO THAT? if you can give me steps or a goal , or anything and you would have saved my life. i want to do that soo bad wehre I dont have to think about it everyday and have it pretty much ruin my life over some girls. Please help me, im destroying myself. I cant take it anymore.
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (22 October 2011):
I think you should move on. Your ex-bestfriend sounds selfish and insecure enough to do anything to make herself feel better than other people.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (21 October 2011):
Wait, your 'best friend' fell out with you because you tried to make friends with and include someone else????
GOOD RIDDANCE!! Clearly she's immature, insecure, has abandonment issues and in general is a two faced bitch. Be glad she doesn't like you, i wouldn't want to be friends with someone like her! You did such a kind thing, introducing Leasette into your circle of friends because she was sat by herself, and your 'so called' best mate reacts like that???
It's been 2 months and you still can't stop thinking about the nasty things she said to you (and the ones behind your back). This means that you are not over her, but you can't forgive her either. If you had stuck by her, you probably would have ended up just like her.
Ever seen the film 'Mean Girls'? Watch it, this girl is like Regina, a right nasty piece of work. Go and make some new friends, ones worth having...
Good luck! :)
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