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writes:i have been with my bf for 5 months. we are in love. before me he did drugs and had alot of one night stands. he says he is done with all that now and has vowed never to touch drugs again. altho he has promised me before and has done them twice within the 5 months. however, he swears he is done with them and knows its not good for us or him. however we are both at diff uni's and even tho i trust his promises 2 me im so scared that he will do drugs when he is around certain ppl. or if he gets drunk. .am i right to be worried even tho i trust him?what can i do to not feel like this?pls help. thank you.
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reader, ilovelove +, writes (29 June 2008):
ilovelove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanku very much for your answer/s. it means alot and has helped me with a few things.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Hello ilovelove,
This is something you're going to have to sit and discuss with him sensibly and like real adults. Tell him how worried you are, even if you say you're feeling a little paranoid about it, just so as not to make it sound like you're nagging him, and if he truly loves you and wants a future with you then he'll have the will~power to follow that promise he made to you.
You need that reassurance, I understand, otherwise you'll be having it playing on your mind and you don't need that whilst trying to study.
Good luck hon.
BigSis
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reader, Marco262  +, writes (27 June 2008):
As much as it sucks to think about, if he's done drugs that recently (especially after saying he wouldn't), he's likely to do drugs again in the future.
The most you can do is trust him to not become a drug abuser. Not all drugs are harmful when taken in small amounts, people who smoke a little pot or drop a little acid can lead perfectly normal lives otherwise.
Note the phrases on "little" and "not all drugs". If he is doing drugs like meth or heroin, the addictive properties are much stronger. However if he's only done drugs twice in 5 months, it sounds like he's doing some fairly minor drugs.
Do your own research on the drugs he is using. Go with him to his university and spend an evening meeting the people he hangs out with. This will give you a better idea if hi friends are people you can trust to keep him away from drugs, or if he's guaranteed to get stoned every weekend.
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