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writes:Okay, story time.My girlfriend on I have been dating since high school for 4 years now. We were both raised highly on morals and have remained virgins throughout these 4 years. BUT, we do manage to play around and have fun, but it's gotten really old on her part and she is really not interested at all, and says when I advance her, she forces herself to play, just to make me happy. Although she says it's great and she enjoys the little bit of it that comes with our "play time", she just isn't all that interested.We call it "playing" or "play time" because we don't have sex, so there's no need to call it anything else. Our play time is mutual masterbation. We have never done anything orally and neither of us really desire to do any oral playing, so all we do is use our hands. Now, one of the biggest problems we have is...... thats all we do use our hands, which has become extremely boring and not near as fun. Same ole, same ole, everytime. She says she doesn't like our play time anymore because it takes too much work for the little experience we have. When we play, I warm her up for right around 5 minutes and then she climaxes, and when she climaxes, it only lasts her 5 to 7 seconds and then it hurts her to continue any further. I'm the same.... a few mintues of getting warm... and then it's over! I've heard from numerous people that they can get a girl to climax around 3 to 7 times during sex, but I can't do that with my fingers. I don't know if my friends are joking with me to make me feel guilty and pressure me into sex, but if they're not.... I wish I could do that, without sex.So, my question is this. Is there ANYWAY to excite/extend our play time without sex? I want to extend the pleasure for her, without making it hurt or without making her work harder.... with what little she does already. If the best advice is orally pleasures, then I may try to convince her... but I'm hoping to get other answers. We also don't waant to break up because we have a tough time finding someone that's worth our time, because we've tried and came back to each other numerous times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): multiple orgasms are rare…the fact that you can get her to climax once is just fine…after a climax…you need recovery time though…any action too soon after that would hurt…most women can't have vaginal orgasms though (77%)…she's probably having lots of clitoral orgasms when you have foreplay…which aren't too difficult to achieve…use lube…maybe try playing w/ butt with one of your fingers…don't go inside though at first, but get near it if it doesn't weird you out…go slowly though, b/c she might freak out…tell her that you heard that it can be very enjoyable…there are lots of nerves around the anus…like how there are a bundle of nerves in the clitoris…it's pretty hot and feels pretty freakin' awesome… :p try a romantic, candlelit massage beforehand…or you could always buy a sex toy (i'd recommend a vibe egg) but that might be too freaky…
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