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writes:hello,I just got married few weeks ago we are on our honeymoon..one night I decided to be kinky after dinner and decided for bondage,my wife my against being tied;so I handcuffed my self to the hotel bed..she was downstairs for dinner,so I had the chance and the time to be kinky..I handcuffed my-self to the hotel-bed..the cuff got locked with the lever on the cuff..(what I didn't know was the cuff needed keys to be opened again)..I removed all clothes off and waited for my wife to get back,put candles in the room,got some good wine before the cuffs were on..well 30 min later,my wife comes in to see me cuffed and wearing nothing..she was a bit surprised to see me this way!!! she began kissing me,tickled me a bit and then blindfolded me with her scarf..we did it..Then I realized I lost my keys to the cuff,my wife searched throught all my bags,trouser pockets..still we couldn't find it..she got angry and slapped me few times,I couldn't do anything;as was cuffed..then she called the house keeping guys and explained the situation,the house-keeping men came with the tools..my wife was so angry that she left me once the house keeping was inside..she didn't even bother to cover me with shorts or a bed sheet..the house-keeping came with 1 male and female worker,they uncuffed me,but i was exposed in front of them..Now my wife hasn't spoken to me,you thing I should talk to her,or let her anger come down as she is embrassed..
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reader, dr.2.be  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Irrational. She should not have gotten angry over a lost key. Plus, you didn't lose them on purpose. Even worse she left you handcuffed to the bed naked and didn't even bother to cover you up, left and then you had essentially no choice but to bare all to strangers. Seriously how hard is it to put a sheet over you or your shorts on? Come on. How embarrassing! What a selfish b!tch.
I don't think you need to apologize for anything and I can't get why some people want you to apologize. SHE needs to apologize for the way she treated you. She shouldn't of slapped you, left you naked alone in front of strangers and got pissed off for such a stupid thing! If I were her, I wouldn't of been mad but rather more concerned about how to get you off. I would have put your pants back on and wait with you while the housekeeping people came to cut them off. It would have been a funny story to tell in the future if handled correctly. There was no need to leave you humiliated like that!
Consider this a red flag. This was on your honeymoon! She ruined it and thats what you are going to remember about it! You would think this is supposed to be romantic and things should be less likely to set her off. How is she going to act during the normal trials and tribulations faced that come along with marriage? She may get worse and mad at the stupidest things therefore making you very unhappy.
Giver her some time to cool off but if you find that over the next months or couple years she mistreats you and makes you unhappy, don't put up with it. You know what you should do.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): Yeah I think she shouldnt have slapped you though Im guessing that was because she was embarassed.What I think you should do is DO apologise that you lost the keys however it was an accident and all you wanted to do was have some fun with her on your honeymoon.Say that you were very annoyed at her that she left you with no underwear on as it was completely humiliating for you and she wasnt the one left lying naked on the bed for people to stare at.I hope she apologises after this for this irrational behaviour for hers because walking out on you is completely disrespectful im afraid.I hope you work things out though x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): She didn't even have the decency and respect to cover you up. Crawl for her forgiveness? Hell no! You should be the one pissed off and demanding an answer as to why she left you like that for others to see! Her anger is completely irrational.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): I think your wife was unreasonably angry and crossed some lines. I know everybody has an instant or two in their lives when they are overwhelmed by irrational embarrassment but you should let her know that how she acted and has continued to act is childish and not okay. She needs to get over it. You didn't mean to lose the key or put her in an awkward position. Had she reacted with a little bit more finesse, the experience wouldn't have been half as humiliating for the both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): accidents happen, this is a nutter you married.and she didnt have the decency to cover you up...what a cow...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): UM......why did you marry her?? She sounds awful!
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 The thing is i don't understand why she would be angry or annoyed with you for this. I had a similar situation, my boyfriend got stuck on my bed with handcuffs and i went to get the tool kit out of the garage and my mum came home and walked in on him. I've never laughed so much!
That must of been so embarrasing for you! If she is really annoyed with you then just get her some flowers and say sorry for embarrasing her and say never to do it again. You might be laughing about it in a week to come.
She shouldn't of slapped you, that wasn't needed at all.
It was an accident, life is full of them, we learn and move on!
Livia
xoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): Embarrassing for her?? What about you? Imagine if this had been the other way around and you hadn't had the decency to cover her up in front of the hotel staff?! And had slapped you for an innocent accident?? -Is there no sense of equality in the relationship?
Accidents happen. I don't think you should apologise for anything, but I think you two have some serious talking to do!
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reader, natasia +, writes (29 June 2009):
 what's wrong with her? she should have been sweet and kind to you, and seen the funny side, and certainly covered you up! so, you lost the key - accidents happen.
sorry, but i wouldn't feel like crawling around her for forgiveness, i would feel like asking her to un-sign the marriage certificate! if this is what she is like now, what is she going to be like for the rest of your life???? but i guess that was yr choice and you knew her. sorry - i don't think she's being v kind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): Ohhh that was something. That is the kinda stuff I usually only see in movies. You would have to talk to her and just keep saying you are sorry for ruining the night. That is pretty embarrassing for her, I can imagine for you too as well but yeah, her feeling like that after the love making must be frustrating. I agree with StudentOfLife though that it can make a funny memory.
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reader, citic101  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 next time have a spare key ! yes let her calm down and then talk to her she will forgive you in a few weeks she will see the funny side I bet it was fun to be slapped around by her
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reader, StudentOfLife +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Some people get angry when they experience an embarrassing situation when they should actually laugh about themselves. We all go through stuff that's embarrassing. (When I was in 5 grade, I pooped in my pants while I was in class)
May not seem like it now, but you just made a very funny story to tell people once you get older. Make sure to mention to know where they putted the keys if they ever want to try handcuffs.
Give her time to think it through, it was a mistake and you didn't mean to hurt anybody.
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (29 June 2009):
you should speak to her and understand what is behind her strange anger,
you have planned and agreed on every thing and accidents do happen every now and then
and i beleive you dont have to be sorry for any thing
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 You have a lot of crawling to do..big time.
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