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female
age
30-35,
*hannon1993
writes:Hi, i have a girlfriend that i love, but she keeps asking me to open up but the thing is i don't know how to? And also she sais that we need to be close so that we will work out, which i understand, but when i sit their and cuddle up to her she gets up and does something else, and i found her texting her ex girlfriend which iconfronted her about it and she said that nothing is happening between her and her ex, but i don't know and she is awlways saying how she will protect her, which obviously i don't like and we have had an argument about it and she said she won't talk to her no more because she doesnt want to see me upset but she still does and i dont know what to do? I just don't know what to say or do, and i don't want to get hurt! can you please help me?
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 It is hard for anyone to open up to someone they aren't even sure they can trust and her behavior with the ex is only making it harder for you I think. In time you will learn whether or not she is the person you think she is and as the trust builds so will your ability to share yourself with her.
In the meantime you can make her feel like you are trying to open up, by focusing on her, instead of reveiling your inner most secrets and fears before you are ready. Ask her lots of questions about herself, her likes and dislikes, her future goals and dreams. What she thinks about, life politics, religion, whatever. And tell her how sexy and strong you thought she was when she said this or did that. Tell her all the things you like about her and why.
Gay or straight, people are very basic, we all like being with someone that connects with us and makes us feel good about ourselves just the way we are.
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