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writes:My wife and mother tolerate each other but recently when I suggested that it might be nice for my mother if I made an overnight visit, my wife went off into a weekend sulk saying it was a snub.My mother is in her 80's and I have asked my wife how she would feel if our son was to marry and his wife took such a position. She refuses to see it from any other viewpoint.Is this reasonable behaviour? Reply to this Question
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 well that depends, why does she dislike your mother? is your mother rude or mean to her? in which case, why would she want to see her? i doubt very much that if your mother was nice to her that she'd actually have a problem.
having said that i think as your mother is getting on a bit, you should still go and see her. but like caring guy suggested, you should maybe take your wife away for a weekend afterwards
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (29 November 2009):
Somehow I get the feeling there is considerable friction between your wife and mother, and your wife was showing her displeasure. Perhaps say to her that you need to see your mum for an overnight stay, but would love to take her (your wife) on a weekend away when you get back.
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reader, AuntyEm + ♥, writes (29 November 2009):
 No it's not reasonable but like everything else there are ways of saying stuff to get what you want. I can understand you wanting to have more time with your mum. I wonder if your wife's folks are still alive.
Stay calm but don't back down, let her know how important it is to you. If she sulks again, well just let her het on with it. Your mum isn't going to be around forever...you will regret it if you don't go with your decision.
Best of luck to you
Aunty Em xx
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