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writes:My wife of 3 years recently told me she had a crush on my best friend. I told her how could happen if I'm the only man in your life. She told me not to look into it to much, that it had been only a small crush, and then it passed. Should I be worried?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): start working on the marriage! she is sending you a subtle message that someone has caught her eye (as innocent as it is). also try not to let the friend be around your wife too much. and no leaving them alone. best friend or not you need to be protective over your relationship. you do not have have to start acting crazy and accusing her of anything but because you are aware, take care of your own. try romancing her and spice up the sex, send her flirty sexy messages on her cell. tell her you are crazy about her, show her that you can still be excited by her........work it man, make her realize that YOU ARE IT (you are HER it).
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): Time to spice things up in your marriage. It's like a wake-up call! Use it as such. Don't dwell on what she said, read between the lines, and add some excitement to your life and marriage! Things are probably getting humdrum and routine.
As others said, if she planned to act on the attraction, she would never tell you. She is sending you a message that she may not even realize she is sending! She wants/needs more romance! Make the effort to sweep her off her feet all over again!
Good Luck and Get Creative!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): Hello.Firstly, I would be pleased if my partner had told me something like this. Obviously it's a shock but the fact that she can tell you means that she has nothing to hide, nothing at all. I found out that my partner was 'fantasizing' about one of her male friends the hard way and we're trying to deal with it now- but she wont be open with me about it.As the other people have said- I don't think there's anything wrong with a kick up the a**, so to speak.Be confident, be happy, if you feel bad about it in anyway- tell her.Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): Maybe this is her way of saying she is a bit unhappy with the way things are or that she is worried about your relationship - she's trying to get your attention she may be feeling that you have not been paying her much attention recently?. It seems to have worked but if I were you rather than seeing it as a negative realise she has told you this for a reason. It has pricked your conscience so do something positive in response. Many women will stray and never tell their man. She has recognised the early signs (very early) and they mean nothing serious - just a way of representing a desire to be more loved or 'in love'.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (16 March 2009):
If it's been and it's gone then no you have nothing to worry about.
Her mistake was telling you about it. The only thing that achieved is making herself feel less bad about it. But it's thrown you so bad that you are here asking what you should be feeling.
If you are going through a rough patch or you are busy at work, or it's the final of the football, we wives will often go off into our own little world and invent an imaginary perfect guy to run off with.
Her crush was probably more just a series of day dreams than anything else, and I bet if she knew your buddy better then she would see he is actually nothing like what she was imagining.
Put a bit of effort in and romance her socks off this weekend, give her a back rub and make her feel special. Then tell her that you trust her so what goes on in her head should stay there and in future you just don't want to know as it hurts.
As long as you remind her why you ARE her guy every now and then and do something special out of the blue to show her exactly why she fell for you in the first place, then you'll be fine.
My hubbie sometimes buys me a little chocolate bar and leaves it somewhere with a ribbon round it and a little note with a kiss.
I know it costs him less than 50p but it's just the thought and the fact he made the effort to do it that makes me melt.
Good Luck!! xx
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