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reader, Serpico  +, writes (6 June 2012):
Ok - right off the bat the whole "missed my youth" thing reeks of BS guilt that she put on you as an excuse and it seems you have swallowed it.
Nonesense - you sacrificed to be with her just as much as she did to be with you. If any woman of mine allowed another man to grind up on her, believe me by the end of the night she would have all the freedom that she ever imagined. Stop being a fool.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): And a lot of single women would be jealous of her. Being single gets old quickly too, it is hard to find someone who isn't a player. She's an idiot if she's willing to throw you away.
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reader, BETTERFLIRT +, writes (5 June 2012):
 Do it while there are evidence of negotiation between you. If not you will finaly loose her because anyway she will go for it with or out you. And I do not see any reason that your wife has to dance with others. Why not with you?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 I fully agree with Person12345. I find it stunning that she blames the relationship with you for missing out on "life". She chose that, and she was happy with her choice. You don't owe her anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLast point she says that theres an unspoken understanding that evryone knows when your partner goes to a dance club they will dance with single people. (i did take advantage of her allowing me to go) i pretended i just went to hang out and drink. so my guilt also affects me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni agree guys with the whole going too far. my male cousins think im obsessed because she really doesnt behave like this.first im in love with her. She is a dedicated mother(2 kids). she has done very well professionally. we own our own home and theres more to come with this powerhouse of a women. we have gone through some rough times together. we have reached a level that many of our peers have not. this is why i think they side with her or understand why she would want to go out. They feel ive got everything icould want. The problem is the lingering sentiment of missing out in life. Ive had a fun personal,sexual life. where i was her first for everything she is not the sexual enthusiast that i am.Even culturally she is not up to date and she proves that whenever we are in group setting talking about different topics (never seen dirty dancing, ET , bambi).
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reader, person12345 +, writes (5 June 2012):
 Your wife is being ridiculous. The grass is always greener on the other side but there's nothing particularly better about playing the field. Either she's with you or she's not. She can't have it both ways just because it seems like her friend is having fun doing the whole dating thing. Do you think she's going to be wanting to trade places if her friend gets dumped or dates a jerk?
This is totally unacceptable behavior. She's a married woman, she can't be going around dry humping other men because she feels insecure. You need to tell her that either she stops acting like a single woman or she will become one. Meaning you dump her.
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reader, N91  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 You've got to put your foot down on this one, you can't accept that as an excuse for your wife to go out, grinding on other guys. How do you know it's just that? She could be handing her number out, kissing god knows who and that is not okay at all.
If you act like a doormat and continue to let her do this, then she will treat you like a doormat. You need to tell her straight, that you won't tolerate this behaviour as it's extremely disrespectful.
She can either like it or lump it
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): I wouldn't accept that for one second OP. If she wants to act single then maybe she shouldn't be married. She knows she's hurting you immensely yet she doesn't care she wants to rub her ass off other guys knobs.
What are you going to do about it OP? Are you going to let her get away with doing this and perhaps go further with these guys on the bullshit excuse that she wants recapture her youth? I say fuck that OP. That's not what this is at all. She wants to explore other guys because you're not enough for her. Not because she's missed out on her youth but because she wants to get it on with other guys.
Again if this is unacceptable to you then why are letting it happen? Because you're scared of losing her? Sorry my friend but letting her get a taste of the single life lime this is far worse.
Look I can only tell you what I would and I love my girlfriend of 7 years but if she pulled this kind of emotional blackmail on me I'd either dump her or I'd go out and do the same thing full well knowing and willing to accept that it would mark the death if our relationship as it escalated.
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