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writes:A. Hi, I wonder if you can help me. I really want to know the intimate details of my wife's sexual past. I know you may think it's weird but i'm really curious. Am I normal? I want to know what she did with them, how big they were, who was best in bed etc. Should a husband know these sort of things? The thought of her sexual past does not bother me, it even turns me on a bit. How can I get her to share more of her past with me?B. To help improve my sex life with my wife I want to know what women fantasize about? Can anyone help?C. I have found a sex tape of my wife with her ex. I can't get it out of my head. The image of her with him has scorched my retina. The thing is, i'm not upset. I'm not even jealous. In fact, I masterbate over it whenever I can. I wish there was more even. Why do I think like this? Is it normal?[Mod note: as this poster had 3 questions regarding his wife and sex, they were collated into one.]
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2011): Just leave her past sexlife alone. It really isn't any of your business what or who she did or how big they were. I wish I never knew about my wifes sexual past or the fact that she was a real slut who had sex with over a hundred different guys by the time she was 21. Leave it alone dude, you may be sorry to know the real truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2011): Now a days, the term Normal seems to have shifted to once was the norm for a certain mindset and/or behaviours are becoming more acceptable and its considered 'outdated' that an old fashioned lifestyle more out of the norm.
I think that knowing your desires and the why of it is normal. We should be self aware. We should do a self analysis and self examine regularly.
I have a slight concern that you rather view your wife as a sexual object there to gratify and have lost respect for her, when seen this way.
I think if you are so obsessed about Wife and her sex life but dont see it being a problem, then talk to her and tell her outright that it turns you on.
I had an Ex that was aroused by my sharing of past lovers/BFs so I would answer his questions honestly and openly.
I think it made him feel comfortable and 'normal' to have desires for me and fueled his fantasies of him and I made it more 'real' for him as to what the limits were in his fantasies. What I was willing to fulfill. He would ask more of me and I guess it helped him to get over his shyness towards me and confident to explore possibilities with me.
So, it depends on the man and woman relationship. AS other Exs did not want to know I was a sensuous, sexual being before being with them.
Start asking Wife questions just be prepared to answer they why you want to know.
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