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writes: I have got this fantasy that I want to kiss a girl (I'm a girl too). I'm not a lesbian and I'm not bi. I'm rather curious. I mentioned this to my bf a couple of times and I made it seem as a joke, he told me that this would be cheating and that he in general think that this is disgusting. What can I do to make this fantasy go away. I feel as if I'll not be calm until I try it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCheating is cheating OK. I'll rather just keep it a fantasy. tnx 4 the answers guys :)
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Jesc and Tennisstar88, I enjoy watching and attractive woman kissing another attractive woman, but I wouldn't want my partner kissing another person... guy or girl. Cheating is cheating in my opinion also.
To the anon. poster.... lots of people in relationships have fantasies that shouldn't be made real. Has there ever been a guy you've thought about kissing while you were with your boyfriend? This is no different. You just need to learn that this is something you just need to keep to yourself.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Really? Most guys are into the girl on girl action. Your boyfriend sounds rather conservative. Fantasies never really go away they pop in your mind randomly from time to time. Sounds like curiosity is slowly killing the cat for you, however you've hit a roadblock because you boyfriend says it's cheating. Now, we want to respect your boyfriend. I answered a question where this girl was in a relationship with a bisexual guy who was kissing guys and girls. Kissing is a form of cheating bisexual, gay, or straight..regardless of which end it's on. Now, I'm going to stick with the advice I gave to her because it also applies to you. So because your boyfriend isn't the type of male that's all for it, I'm sorry to say you can't explore your fantasy. If you guys ever break up by all means explore, but for now it's going to have to stay a fantasy in your head.
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reader, Jesc +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Hmm, It's odd to see a guy say this is cheating. Considering how a majority of guys enjoy that.
If you honestly feel that this is going to eat at you, Then tell your boyfriend. Let him know this is bothering you that you just have to find out. Now if you think this will end badly and you want to keep your boyfriend you should keep it a fantasy.
Someone once put that a fantasy is best left a fantasy. But you never know?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Your boyfriend is right, that would be cheating. That means that while you are with your boyfriend you can not kiss another person, man or woman. If your urge to kiss another girl is very strong, break up with your boyfriend and explore a little. If you love your boyfriend more, just deal with the fact that you wont get to try it.
I don't know how you are supposed to make the fantasy go away other than rationalize your thoughts. What would you gain from kissing a girl? And is it worth your relationship? Try to think about a few of those things, and not just the fantasy, but also the reality around it, if you were to attempt making the fantasy come true.
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