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writes:help!I am a 17 year old female and my teacher is in his mid-30s and I like him. I can't stop thinking about him. I want to know if he likes me, he used to be really cool with me and treat me normally (sometimes kinda weird.. but I guess he's just naturally weird) but now he FLIPPED out on me and he's really "mean" he'll be really strict with me and barely make contact.. like weird and tense around me. I am the only one he treats like that even though there are some girls who cross the "boundary" between teacher and student and I never crossed that boundary... and a week ago my friend totally yelled out right there in the hallway (it was me and my friend and my teacher) that I like my teacher and then my teacher heard and kept looking at me like "OMG" My friends think that he has some confused feelings toward me .. I don't know what to do and schools almost over. and I might be in his Teachers assistant next year, I really want to let him know .. should I and if I do.. how and when? signed in distress
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reader, xSpacexDementiax  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Collaroy, I think that was some of the best advice I've seen on this issue, and I am one of the girls who has (unfortunately) developed feelings for her teacher.
Thanks, Im actually really gonna listen to that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Don't worry, you're not the only one in this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Look, whether he likes you back or not is NOT in question. This isn't just another lad in your class, this is an adult and your teacher, with which a relationship is totally illegal and not allowed. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but if you take a look around the site, there's plenty of questions like this and most people say the same. It'll save you plenty of hurt if you just try your best to forget whatever they shouted, and look at him like a normal teacher. This will pass honey, it will.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Well said , Collaroy. I agree.
There are thousands of these types of questions on this site, have a look and you may well find your answer.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Hi,
sorry mate but be prepared for some harsh advice.
it might just have be because he is a tinsy winsy bit worried about losing his job and going to jail. Nothing serious, but you know what men are like.
I'm being rude I know, but how many of these posts do we see almost every day on this site. Good grief, these young girls have no idea how hard it is for a male teacher to stay interested in a career in teaching these days.
You see I was a teacher and at one stage I had a young girl following me around. I had to get the principal to get her to stop as I was worried she would trap me in a situation where I would have to turn her down (alone in class)- and we all know how angry teenage girls can get when they are upset. So I feel for your teacher , he probably didnt realise you had a crush on him , but now he knows he realises that his life is at stake - his career his family, his friends - everything.
This is a serious issue, he is being mean to you because you have forced him into a corner.
O.K i understand you cant do anything about having a crush on a teacher, but once its out there you have to understand that the school and the education department look very critically on these things. Moreover they are aware that a lot of men do not want to get into teaching these days purely because they know they run the risk of a young girl developing a crush and then accusing them of sexual harrasment once they've been turned down. It happens. And male teachers are leaving the education sector in droves.
Do the right thing, keep it to yourself, dont ruin your own education by obsessing over it, and when you graduate and you are an adult you can do whatever you like and people like me will keep their mouths shut as you are old enough to make your own decisions and be responsible for them - right now you arent.
good luck.
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