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writes: i'm really confused by this girl. she really liked me a ton for the longest time, before i even knew who she was. but then one day, we began talking accidentally, as i went and sat next to her at a soccer game just trying to be friendly. i didn't realize that she felt the way she did at the time, but afterwards, i wound up developing feelings for her, too. but we both didn't say anything to each other about it. rather, we just ignored each other from then on because i think we liked each other too much to start talking because we were nervous. that, and we both didn't know how the other one felt.a couple of months passed with no speaking, with us staring at each other in class etc, and i finally got the courage to start talking to her. i initiated us hanging for the first time, and she bravely admitted to having liked me for pretty much the past year. BUT...she had just gotten into a relationship less than a month prior (this was 6 months ago).she asked me to be respectful and not try anything because that would make things really hard on her. so i respected her wishes, as hard as it was. but later, she asked me why i never tried anything, and that if i had, she wouldn't have been able to say no. after that, things died down a bit, and we developed a really strong friendship, and i was okay with us just being friends. we even moved in together this summer and everything's been fine. but one night a few weeks ago, we were lying in her bed (which was a bad idea), and she admitted to me that she still really had feelings for me. mind you, she was totally sober, as was i. i told her i felt the same, and she even admitted that she wanted to leave her partner for me. we wound up hooking up that night, but i later told her that i thought it was a bad idea for us to be together right now, and that this shouldn't happen again. i told her that spending some time apart would be a good idea to let us get our feelings back to normal. she said that she wanted it to happen again, and that it would most likely be up to me to stop it from happening. well, we wound up taking time away, and i just discovered how much i miss her and do want to be with her. but she wrote me an email telling me how glad she was that she stayed with her partner because she realized that her and i were a mistake. but a part of me wonders if she really means that, or if she's just saying that. we still flirt. i just wonder what's going on! do you think she still likes me??
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2006): if she's in a relationship, then it's understandable why things wouldn't work out. but if you all still have feelings for each other and don't have partners, then why not? you both seem to have an extremely stong bond and friendship, so why not take it further? maybe she is just saying that to make you (and herself) feel better. you really should talk to her to sort things out now that you've been away from each other awhile...unless you don't want to have a relationship. (because it seems like the both of you would want to)
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