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writes:six months ago, my life was great. my roommate, his girlfriend, and I were really good friends. and then i met this girl who i really liked. my roommate found out and decided that he would help me out. well, after a while it became less of me trying to ask her out and more of us all three just being good friends. but my feelings still existed. now, my roommate has broken up with his girlfriend, and now likes this girl also, and she likes him. they aren't going out, but they are very flirty with each other, and every time i see it or think about it it makes me sick. and his ex is now broken up about it because she still loves him. his ex and i are still friends. i don't want to lose the friendship between my roommate and me, or between the girl we both like and me. but i also don't want to be a bad friend and say that i don't want them to stop flirting with each other; they both know how i feel. the story of my life right now is "you can't help how you feel." but if someone's feelings don't change soon its going to screw up my life, because I'm feeling horrible, and frustrated, and sick.how can i fix this situation so that we can all still be friends but i don't hurt anymore?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): You need to get out of there.Find a new flat. A new roommate. And a new girl.Staying there and watching them will kill you! Get out soon...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): Love is love. It can't be forced. I think you should let her go. Maybe they only like each other because of feeling 'forbidden' (because of you).
There's only 1 way to find out, and that's to give her up. You'll be the 'bigger man' for doing this. Then you'll know if what they have is real or temporary. And the best way to get over someone you like is to start liking someone else:)
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reader, sunshine89 +, writes (13 January 2009):
sunshine89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have discussed this recently with both my roommate and the girl. both say they don't want to hurt me, but they also don't want to have to chose between each other or me. i don't want to lose either of their friendships. especially my roommate's; he's my best friend.i probably should have said that it was bothering me sooner, but now that its gone this far i don't know how to fix it.
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