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writes: My partner just rubishes everything i do. No love since the baby 22 months ago. I work hard and give all my time and money to us, but I feel the one left out. she has two children to a previous relationship and one we have together. I treet them al the same. What AM I DOING WRONG?
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 This is a very common situation,this happens so much in relationships after a baby has been born ..the husband gets put to one side and feels neglected and all sorts of things are proberly going on inside your head right now like 'what am i doing wrong ?''Does she not want me anymore ?''Is she having a affair ?'..but its mostly down to a womans hormones ..prehaps shes feeling she can't cope and everythings getting too much for her shes putting all her time and energy into looking after 2 kids and a baby and running a family home and sex is the last thing on her mind..personally i think you need to sit down and have a good talk to her without the kids around maybe get someone to mind them for you..and then tell her how your feeling.
Good Luck and keep us posted
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Maybe you are doing nothing wrong - maybe she has some issues that she is taking out on you. Have you considered asking her to see a doctor...postnatal depression is very common and treatable for instance.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 You need to sit down and talk to your partner. Tell her how you're feeling and let her know having a new baby is time consuming. I happen to agree with you about fathers get put at the bottom of the list. Sometimes women take more to the motherly role and we feel left out. It' hard to accept and can cause resentment if not dealt with. These type of things need to be fixed before too much time goes by. Your wife is busy but so are you. Your needs also should be getting some attention.
Talk it out or get help from a third party theripist type.
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