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writes: My mum and dad had been together for 24 years when everything changed. During our holiday in August of last year, they were happy and talking about getting old and stuff. Then in October, after my big bro had a baby, my dad went off the rails a bit. He was always at 'work' and I automatically thought affair. My ma was none the wiser. I found out he was having an affair but when I tried to confront, I got nothing but denial. (My mum has no idea so please don't tell me to tell her. I don't think it's my place to!)Then on their 24th anniversary, my dad said he didn't love her any more. She's broken down since then and I've had to support her through the hard times. But I feel like my dad's running away from facing the issue. He can't move out cos it's his money we rely on and he would hate to see his five kids in the street. He doesn't sleep intheir room anymore and I have to carry the family. I feel like I can't give out my frustration cos I havr to be strong. Can anyone help me? What do I do?
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 I am sorry for the situation that you are in. You have been very strong and brave through it all and sound very mature. What you must understand is that none of this is your problem to think. You are the child and your parents are the ones that need to work this out. Depending on what country you are in, when your dad moves out he will have to pay child support to your mum, and the government will help her to, so you will not be "out on the street". I do agree with you that it is not your place to tell your mum about the affair and I feel that this would only make things worse anyway. Whats done is done. There will be an ending and it will all be over, all I can say is just to try to be happy and accepting. I really think that you need to see a counsellor. I feel that you are bearing all of this on your shoulders and need to be able to talk to someone else about what YOURE going through. Otherwise, the way you are going wont stay for long because you will become tired and frustrated with being the "strong one". Good Luck girl. Hope it all works out. xx
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