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writes: i have met some one online she says she loves me but i dnt know if thts true cause i have bad experience in past and i worry to much cause i love her tooi ring her she does not answer or when i try to talk 2 her she talk and thn makes an excuse saying she has to go i dont really know wht to do help me out Reply to this Question |
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (6 October 2006):
 Whoa! Slow down a bit here, hun. Have you even met this girl, in the real world? If not, let's get some clarity and perspective here. You are having an emotional relationship with someone you have never met face to face. Dear, you know really nothing about her except what she's telling you. So why is this word "love' being so carelessly tossed around here. Love is touching, seeing, smelling and developing a deep bond over a long period of time. It does not sound like you have this. The problem with online relationships where two people simply type endearing words, then reality gets blurred and one seems to live in a fantasy world. Basically, it's just two computers connecting rather than two human beings.
On the other hand, if you have met her in real life and you both have developed a strong relationship, then her actions in either case are troublesome. If she doesn't seem to have time to talk to you, you should be worried. Some could say she's busy, or there's a circumstance that has occurred in her life and she can't talk to you. I say hogwash to that. When someone truely loves another, they will let their beloved know what's happening, no matter what! They would be in contact, because she would be worried that you could miscontrue her actions. And she would never want you to feel hurt by her lack of response.
My suggestion to you. Step back and think things through. Like DrPete said so wisely, you need to gauge her love by her behaviours. And her actions are not matching up to her words. I think you want a deep and rewarding relationship with this girl but I really, really feel..you are wasting too much of your emotional energy way too soon. Just go easy, dear and think about this. Good luck and Take Care
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reader, Dr Pete  + ♥, writes (6 October 2006):
 You could wire her up to a lie-detector test?
Maybe though, you shouldn't rely so heavily on those words. Love is shown by the way someone treats you, not by them just saying it. It's easy. hey - I love you! See?
Ask her what does love mean to her.
Her reply should give you some insight in to whether or not this girl is right for you.
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reader, helpful girl +, writes (5 October 2006):
 SORRY FORGOT TO MENCHONE ALSO IF YOU HAVENT MET HER THEN ASK TO MEET HER BUT JUST MAKE SURE ITS THE SAFE THING TO DO! IF SHE SAYS SHE DOESNT WANT TO MEET ASK HER TO EXPLAIN WHY IF IT ISNT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON MAYBE SHE IS FIBBING! ALSO SIGNS OF HER FIBBING WOULD BE WHEN YOU SAY YOU LOVE HER AND SHE DOESNT REPLY BACK THE SAME! ALSO WHEN SHE GETS MORE AND MORE DISTANCE FROM YOU E.G EMAILS YOU ONCE -TWICE A DAY OR RINGS YOU 1-2 A DAY.
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reader, helpful girl +, writes (5 October 2006):
i also had a bad experience in actually men they wernt ralationships all the time either! and i was once like you scared to trust any one and i seriously nearly destroyed my ralationship and i knew everytime i strted i was getting more closer to loseing my man,si in the end i thought if i dont take the risk to trust him and let my feelings go i could lose the best thing ever so i took the risk and im really glad i did! maybe you should think like that,life is all about risks if you dont take them then your pratically not liveing a life that you should be,also if you dont take risks you dont get what you want out of life! hope ive helped a little what you should also do is think when your about to get insecure think no she loves me and ill take her word for it! theres no need for me to act this way i refuse to live in the past im moveing on!
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