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writes: I have been dating a guy online for 5 months. He lives in another country so we email every day and talk on the phone every weekend. He is so wonderful.I went to meet him (in the other country) around our 4 month anniversary. We had already talked about how much we liked each other and where it would go from there. My last day there, he asked me to marry him and I said yes. It was amazing.I know some of you will say that it is too fast, but we both trust our feelings and have been in serious relationships before.Since then we have been getting the paperwork together and talking like usual. Then he just disappeared. He hasn't written or called for a week and a half! I wrote him several times, with no reply. I even wrote to say that if for some reason he changed his mind or needs a break, please just let me know so that I quit worrying. I don't think that he would just leave like that so I am worried that something is wrong.I can't check on him because he is in another country... I called his phone and went straight to voicemail like it is off.Any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): Is he in Iraq or one of those middle eastern bumtowns? Cos if he is, then he's probably dead and good riddance too.
If he's from a civilised english speaking country, then maybe its nothing too serious. Best thing would be to try reach him through friends, work etc if you got those details.
Otherwise, all you can do is wait i guess
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (27 June 2006):
 I think that perhaps you need to try and check it out just to ensure that he is ok and that nothing bad happened to him.
Do you know where he works for example? Would it be possible to look up some sort of directory and find the number of his work and call there? Do you have any contact points of his family or friends that you can ring or email and check he is ok?
The options are either he has freaked out and is hiding from you, which if he does shows that he is a complete coward and not worth your time or alternatively something has happened to him.
It sounds like even if he can get back to you he's not going to so you need to find out he is ok at least so you can move on.
I would try some alternative avenues to at least find out if he is ok. His work in particular could be a really good one because they would have seen him in the past week and a half if everything was ok.
Seek out some alternative methods to contact him and see what you find. Once you know that he is ok, leave the ball in his court to contact you.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2006): Do you have access to his friends and family? If you do, try contacting them to see what happened to him.
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (26 June 2006):
 Hey there,
So he disappeared pretty much straight after you got back from seeing him? Is it possible that he just completely freaked out and did a runner? I'm not saying YOU freaked him out but the whole situation possibly could have 'caught' up with him and he got cold feet or one of his friends/family members talked him out of it.....
I hope for your sake this isn't the case and he has lost his phone or suddenly been assigned to the army & had to rush off to the end of the earth to fight for his country all in the name of love....or something equally tangible like that! xxx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 June 2006):
 Well I guess all you can do is hurry up and wait for him to contact you. The ball is in his court. It is a very shoddy way to handle things and I'm sorry you have been treated this way. Good luck.
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