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writes:im a 33 year old male and have had a on/off relationship with my 27 year old girlfriend for 4 years,our last break up was 8 months but have been seeing each other more casually for 3 months,we do love each other but tried living together and it didnt workshe is a stunning girl and iv allways been a bit jealous of other men around her,we recently had a talk and she said she doesnt want to get serious with me again and that we should keep the relationship open and sleep with other people on the grounds that we use protection,i was a little taken back and told her never to tell me of any sexual stuff she has done with others,anyway 2 weeks ago she went on a girls night out and slept with a guy she met,she ended up telling me because the condom had split and she had to take morning after pill and wanted to share her worries,i hated hearing this but did support hernow this weekend she has one of her friends coming to stay at her place with her boyfriend who is bringing his friend,iv asked no questions but i dont know how to carry on with this or maybe its time to walk away?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (16 February 2011):
 It depends do you want to keep sharing your "girlfriend" well it's now turned into a FWBs, with everyone? If you wish to be with her then you don't really have a choice. But you would be settling for less than what you want. At 33 you're probably wanting to settle, have a family etc. With her, she's not looking for commitment, much less monogamy. 27 years old this isn't a "phase" she's going through, in fact at her age she should be finished with all the partying, and sleeping with a different guy every night.
Even if you tried to stay with her in this open relationship, your jealousy will get the best of you. She can't give you the commitment you want, it's time to let it go for good.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 February 2011):
I think this shows just how flawed your relationship really is. You've been on/off for years, you've tried to live together and that failed, you claim to love each other but she wants to sleep with others etc.
Basically, she's not into this at all. I think to her you're Mr Convenient, rather than Mr Right. There's a high chance she's already having sex with other men, and I would bet everything that she'll have sex with this 'friend' she'll be seeing this weekend.
Face facts, my man, she's not into you. You'd do better to permanently end it and find a more suitable woman who will actually commit.
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