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writes: HeyMe and my girlfriend have been together for 5 months know and we love each other i am 15 and she is 18, and she is ready to lose her virginity but i do no think that i am. I have told her this and she said to me that she will 'go somewhere else' if i do not 'man' up, I feel like i am really unmanly and that i can not please her.I dunno what to do should i jst have sex with her?I do not want to lose her!!!!Please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, dannabo  +, writes (12 February 2009):
 My friend, you have already lost her if she cannot respect you. And she would be molesting you. She is 18 and you are 15.She is wanting to commit a crime. Tell her you will tell your parents and for her to get lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): It's the men [yes, *men*] like you who really make me proud. Don't let her do this to you. You're more of a man then most older guys out there, and you should be proud for saving yourself.
I'm proud of you and I don't even know you.
Tell her to get lost. Stand up for yourself, you're strong and you know you deserve love & respect.
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reader, davie  +, writes (30 July 2008):
If you're not ready you're not ready. It is that simple. It sounds like she is almost being demanding, is that love?
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (30 July 2008):
 It's good that you are mature enough and know yourself well enough to know that this is something you really want to delay. Not a lot of 15 year old guys are willing to put off having sex as a matter of preference.
Now that you've made your decision, stick to it. Tell your girl that you want more time, and that if she loves you she'll give it to you. If she won't respect your boundaries in this very important matter she's not the girl you want in your life anyway. It's hard to lose a girl you really like, especially one who is sexually willing. But if she is not willing to respect you in a major decision you are better off without her in spite of everything.
Just Say No.
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reader, Tremor +, writes (30 July 2008):
 She honestly sounds like a bit of a cow.
If it were the other way around I bet she wouldn't take that crap, so what gives her the right to put pressure on you? Being 'manly' does not equal having sex, and it's ridiculous for her to imply that it does.
If she is that concerned about sex that she's threatening to 'go somewhere else', then let her, because she obviously does not have the respect for you that she should.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): Oh Sweetie... I am so sorry that you are being pressured into such a thing. The best thing you can do is distance yourself from this manipulative person...Notice I didn't say "Lady," because a true lady would respect a true gentelman like you, and your decesion to save themselves. Keep sticking to your convictions, and for what it is worth, I think you have already "Manned up," by telling her no. A true lady would be very lucky to have a gentelman like you in there lives.
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